Polgamy - what are your views?

[Kathryn]

Title says it all.

In the United States, there is a television show called "Sister Wives"
It is about a man who has four wives and 16 children between all the wives.
The first three wives live with the husband in a home that divided into separate
apartment type living quarters for each wife and her biological children.
(I said biological because all the wives claim all the children as their children)...
and since there was no more room in the home, the newest wife and her children
have a house that is just blocks away from the main home.

Do you think polygamous marriages can actually ever work???

Personally, it sounds like hell on earth to me, and I want no part of it!

But hey, that's just me. If other consenting adults want to structure their lives that way, that's their business. As long as the children are not mistreated, abused, or neglected, I believe it's the parents' right to raise them in their particular set of beliefs.

As for that particular marriage style "working," - I guess it can, but all sorts of combinations of personalities, goals, lifestyles, etc "work," if you define that as the participants getting along, meeting their own goals, and enjoying each others' company.

To each his own.

But I'll be damned if I would hook up with a man who felt the need to have more than me as a wife. Screw him AND the horse he rode in on!

 

[idea]

Please tell me you're just trying to be funny. Btw, the OT supported polygamy, so apparently it is, or at least was, a-ok in god's book (literally, wakka wakka).

There is a prominant handmaid in the NT too...

(New Testament | Luke 1:38)
38 And Mary said, Behold the handmaid of the Lord


I believe that Abraham/Issac are in similitude of Heavenly Father/Jesus... That means Sara is in similitude of Heavenly Mother, and Hagar in similitude of Mary... just as Abraham got off at the last minute and did not have to actually kill his son (unlike Heavenly Father) Sarah got off at the last minute too, and did not have to rely on a handmaid for their "only" son (unlike Heavenly Mother)... this is what I think polygamy is symbolic of..... Heavenly Mother is perfect, Jesus had to be 1/2 mortal - HM could not give him what he needed, so a handmaid was used.... as Jesus is the only son, it seems She does not bear children (Eve in her perfect form did not bear children either)... Mary was a virgin, it is not about sex, it is about raising up children - and it is a sacrifice, not really something to celebrate.

 

[zenzero]

Friend VA,

Polgamy - what are your views?

Islam in Action: Man with 17 wives, 86 children - The biggest family in the world
Posted by adminMarch 9, 2009
[Via ABC News] Daad Abdul Rahamn may be the patriarch of the largest family in the world. Daad Abdul Rahamn’s 86 children range in age from 3 months to 23 years old. Rahamn, who says he’s 63 years old, claims he has fathered 86 children.
His various families live in different houses surrounding Dubai, United Arab Emirates, though he won’t say exactly how many homes he has.
As Rahamn sees it, his Muslim religion encourages big families and he is extremely devout.

Love & rgds

 

[Midnight Pete]

With 86 children, this "Daad" fellow is aptly named. Dad? Get it?

 

[croak]

64-year-old father of 88 to now wed 18-year-old - Emirates24|7 He's up to 88. I would not take him as representative of polygamy, though.

With 86 children, this "Daad" fellow is aptly named. Dad? Get it?

It is actually pronounced with a sound in the middle that does not exist in English. Sounds kind of like a growl. But it does sound kind of like dad, I suppose.

 

[zenzero]

Friend croak,

would not take him as representative of polygamy, though.

The OP is about commenting on the subject*polygamy* and Daad appeared as a good example of it. There will be thousands of others who are all representatives or members of the *polygamy* category like him.
Why not share a few of them for everyone!

Love & rgds

 

[croak]

Friend croak,



The OP is about commenting on the subject*polygamy* and Daad appeared as a good example of it. There will be thousands of others who are all representatives or members of the *polygamy* category like him.
Why not share a few of them for everyone!

Love & rgds

Nobody in the world has had as many spouses or children as he has (at least recently). I think a better representative would be someone with a maximum of a handful of spouses, as it is in the majority of cases, with probably a limit of 20-30 children.

Sure, he practises polygamy, and he is an example of it. I'm just saying I don't think he's representative of the majority.

 

[Hijabihippie]

Not for me.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

Providing everyone knows and everyone agrees
No problem.
and there is an agreed exit stratagy.

 

[croak]

BBC News - Polygamy in Canada: How many wives can a man have? Looks like the situation in Canada could change.

 

[bobhikes]

After reading up on it. Its like prostitution, we wouid be better off legalizing it and setting up rules for it. For example minmum age and maximum spouces. Maybe we could also have specific tax rules to discourage it.

 

[sandy whitelinger]

Title says it all.

In the United States, there is a television show called "Sister Wives"
It is about a man who has four wives and 16 children between all the wives.
The first three wives live with the husband in a home that divided into separate
apartment type living quarters for each wife and her biological children.
(I said biological because all the wives claim all the children as their children)...
and since there was no more room in the home, the newest wife and her children
have a house that is just blocks away from the main home.

Do you think polygamous marriages can actually ever work???

A man with one wife has problems. A man with more than one wife is a fool.

 

[Valjean]

In cultures where polygyny exists there are historical reasons for it, usually a numeric disparity between the sexes, often coupled with an economy that makes independent lifestyles impracticable.

These societies develop cultural norms and expectations that facilitate polygamous harmony, though any time two people come together there's going to be some degree of friction and, of course, add more people to the mix and this gets multiplied. Nothing's perfect.

Problems arise when the demographics change and the sexes equilibrate, or when the cultural norms of one society are imposed on another where they don't fit. Values and religion are notoriously conservative and frequently coercively maintain institutions long past their sell-by dates.

In western societies with roughly equal sexual demographics widespread polygyny causes problems. Consider the boys expelled from the plygamous town in the American West, for example. They have neither the education or social skills to navigate the larger world. They're lost.
We also don't have the cultural underpinnings that would facilitate harmonious polygynous relations. Some people work things out, of course, but it's not easy.

 

[blackout]

In our free and equal society
only Polyamorous polygamy would ever work
or even be an option.

Anything else would be completely counter cultural.

(don't have time to type a longer post right now)

 

[zenzero]

Friends,

Let us just unwind a bit:
Let us go back and we find humans being animals at some point and having sex when ever two opposite sexual beings got attracted sexually. Some may be mating for a lifetime but most males/females free to live as they wish. Children ofcourse are nursed by mostly by biological mothers till they are on their own.
We as humans have created languages, society, cultures, rules and regulations, meanings of each words, laws etc etc. but still missing balance on our own and keep doing something to regain that elusive balance.
We also find division in society is mainly egoistic we find the Church of England came about only because King henry wanted to have a heir and authority of the crown over church.
It will be not surprising if the separation of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (FLDS), the 10,000-member sect that broke away from the Mormon Church in the 1930s was due to someone wanting to have more wives. And so broke away and made his own rules.
We must remember that we are free in all respect we as beings make our own rules. Rules are not necessarily written in fact most laws that are followed are unwritten starting with laws in a family, authority of a father/mother etc.
Human life is evolving and evolution always brings out new or latest and to understand and realize it one needs to discover the self and the discovery leads to finding that our own desires is what is our down fall, what is it that binds us from that freedom we have by birth.

Reflect!!

Love & rgds