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There is nothing sexually that either of us couldn't do for one another
That's how it is with my fiancee and me. Being into BDSM tends to open a lot of doors for sexual exploring.
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There is nothing sexually that either of us couldn't do for one another
I even told my wife that she has my heart but not my eyes. Even since then I've had two black eyes.
I've had swingy friends... Basically, they all follow a pattern that I find undesirable.
1) They basically never stop dating. They're always trying to find another monkey for the middle.
2) They live together for tax benefits, but do whatever and whoever they want.
3) No kids, that gets in the way of the freak show, etc.
4) STDs, they all have them. They used protection, but the number of partners in the mix made that irrelevant. There is no 100% protection from STDs other than just staying with one clean partner or abstinence.
5) Extra drama - fighting over the third partner, leaving with the third wheel, etc.
When they get older and less attractive the behavior slows down, but mostly because every single person they know knows about the STDs.
I'm not interested mostly because I'm not sharing, lol.
If the one you picked can't get the job done you picked the wrong one. Move the hell on.
I've always wondered how many people actually do not lust after members of the opposite sex other than their spouse after they get married. I, for one, cannot see myself ever being able to refrain from checking out other women. I could love and commit myself to one woman, yes, but there is no way that I would not be checking out other women I find attractive on a daily basis. It just wouldn't be possible, or natural, to stop. I certainly wouldn't expect my wife to not check out other males. This leads me to my question: How many of you who are married (particularly married males, since males generally have a stronger sexual response to sight), actually don't check out members of the opposite gender?
EDIT: Apologies for not initially including LGBTQ couples as well. The question extends to you as well.
I've always wondered how many people actually do not lust after members of the opposite sex other than their spouse after they get married. I, for one, cannot see myself ever being able to refrain from checking out other women. I could love and commit myself to one woman, yes, but there is no way that I would not be checking out other women I find attractive on a daily basis. It just wouldn't be possible, or natural, to stop. I certainly wouldn't expect my wife to not check out other males. This leads me to my question: How many of you who are married (particularly married males, since males generally have a stronger sexual response to sight), actually don't check out members of the opposite gender?
EDIT: Apologies for not initially including LGBTQ couples as well. The question extends to you as well.
I told my wife that if I ever cheated on her it would be with someone she can be proud of. That didn't work either.
I'd also point out that there is HUGE difference between swinging and polyamory. I don't expect to be the only person my wife loves, nor does she expect the reverse from me. Not all love relationships are sexual, but some are.
If someone were to rip off their clothes in front of me my first thought would be 'Huh, you guard your right shoulder and your left hip is hiked, probably from a shortened QL'
Just for giggles I looked him up on Google Image (what can I say, I'm in my 30's.) And while scrolling down through the images, and this is the honest to god truth, my first thoughts were 'He canted his head to the right, probably because of the slightly lazy eye on the right side. I bet he had all sorts of neck issues. You can even see his SCM shortened.'Even if it were a big, burly, muscular Grizzly Adams type... ?
Ye Gods, it's warm in here!
I wish there was an ‘honesty’ rating...you’d get it!
That is real candid of you!
You can’t help but notice what is beautiful, but you just don’t dwell on it...look away. Form no desire.
Myself, I think about Job 31:1 all the time.
Again, it depends on how you do it. Your description doesn't describe my marriage at all.
My wife has had one other partner (and still is involved with him). I have yet to have another partner. We've been together for 12 years now.
That's interesting. I'd be open to a relationship like that but I'd definitely get involved with other women if my wife was involved with another man. Not out of jealousy or anything, but I'd hate to not take advantage of an open marriage if my partner was taking advantage of it.
I'd also point out that there is HUGE difference between swinging and polyamory. I don't expect to be the only person my wife loves, nor does she expect the reverse from me. Not all love relationships are sexual, but some are.
That's how it is with my fiancee and me. Being into BDSM tends to open a lot of doors for sexual exploring.
One of my friends had a very beautiful fiancee, and they looked so good at their wedding. They were 'swingers' and their swing group had very strict rules so as to help to preserve member-couple's marriages and partnerships. Couples only, No acquaintances to swap etc........ My friend said that they would never part from each other, an unthinkable thought....... they did. I've often wondered what chances loose-marriages really do have....That's interesting. I'd be open to a relationship like that but I'd definitely get involved with other women if my wife was involved with another man. Not out of jealousy or anything, but I'd hate to not take advantage of an open marriage if my partner was taking advantage of it.
Maybe it is a male thing. I never looked, even when I was younger.I don't think anyone is exempt.
You may get the thought but you can also decide not to dwell on it, turn your head in a different direction and think on something else
I've always wondered how many people actually do not lust after members of the opposite sex other than their spouse after they get married. I, for one, cannot see myself ever being able to refrain from checking out other women. I could love and commit myself to one woman, yes, but there is no way that I would not be checking out other women I find attractive on a daily basis. It just wouldn't be possible, or natural, to stop. I certainly wouldn't expect my wife to not check out other males. This leads me to my question: How many of you who are married (particularly married males, since males generally have a stronger sexual response to sight), actually don't check out members of the opposite gender?
EDIT: Apologies for not initially including LGBTQ couples as well. The question extends to you as well.
I switched from checking women to checking their dresses, to see if the dress or the jewelry would look nice on my spouse.