So what is the common reason for rape?
I have to do a cut and paste if you don't mind for this subject. Mind you, I am no expert on this topic, I simply bank on other peoples expertise.
Rape - Society, we are a huge part of a huge problem
“You are sympathising with sluts” I was told by a lady when I wrote against rape, tried to remotely help victims. A man could only remotely help which means there should be buffers because being a man, men and women both don’t trust you. Also, being a representative of the male species if you write against rape, there are those who by default believe your motives have something sinister. Not only men, but also women (not all of course) think that rape victims are now sluts, which was one of the biggest mind-blowing realisations I endured. Society, know this in your heart that you are a huge part of a huge problem.
In 1979, Dr. Nicholas Groth and H. Jean Birnbaum developed a profile of several types
of assault, drawn from their work with people who had been arrested, convicted and
incarcerated for crimes of sexual violence. It was called the offenders typology. The first one is the power rapist. These types of rapists don’t use excessive force but just enough to fulfill his desire of power. They feel they need to prove their macho man persona, or they could feel powerful only if they know that they have power over someone. This could be upon opportunity, like a date gone awry or it could be planned. Nevertheless, though in real life they may or may not have a don juan de marcos attitude, his low self-esteem saturates his life. This is predominantly created by the society in which a girl is deemed a tom boy or lesbian if she is no meek kitten and has bigger aspirations in life. Where men are not men if they are loyal, and loyalty scares a lot of people including their best friends, mothers and wives. Societies that justify female genital mutilation by thinking a reduction of sexual stimulation would domesticate a young woman. The problem is not completely due to one of these aspects of course where each society would vary in adherence to one or the other or a combination of all or part of them.
"One of the major problems with the adversarial system here is that the telling of the story in rape cases focuses on the credibility of the victim and various myths are used to malign them," says Dr Bows, a senior lecturer and expert in the field.
Investigative legal systems, in which a judge directs the proceedings and decides guilt, are used across Europe and are less likely to result in victims being attacked and their story questioned. "Institutional practices should treat victims properly and believe them rather than have them under suspicion," says Dr. Bows. "We have a culture of disbelief within our criminal justice system, which becomes one of the key tactics by the defence." More cases are swiftly dealt with and the victims are not further shamed or victimized, which again adds to the success rate.
A victim is a victim, and are in dire need of help. They should be told that they can actually request for closed quarter interrogation. Action should not take 10 or more years. Reforms to the judicial system must be implemented. More importantly, mothers, fathers and society must change their views on women, to protect their own children. We should know, that we ourselves are a huge part of a huge problem.
Someone said change will come by making your bed.
Why do they do it?
People think without analysis the following
1. A lusty male who is the victim of a provocative and vindictive woman.
2. A sexually frustrated man reacting under the pressure of his pent-up needs.
3. A demented sex-fiend harbouring insatiable and perverted desires.
All wrong, and this is why your son could be a rapist and your daughter could be a victim (Thats not being sexist. It’s just that most rape is committed by men so I wish to stick to that.). And whatever you read next is very short but based on clinical research, not speculation.
They all assume that the offender's behaviour is primarily motivated by sexual desire and that rape is directed toward gratifying only this sexual need. Quite to the contrary, careful clinical study of offenders reveals that rape is in fact serving primarily nonsexual needs. - A. NICHOLAS GROTH, PH.D
Let’s think in a simple way just to be general. All rapes are assaults and the abuser has assaulted someone. Be it a consensual underaged girl or a non-consensual abuse of anyone. Everything is assault to speak very broadly. This kind of assault is a symptom of psychological dysfunction. One may come from any environment but know in your heart that its psychological. So let’s sit back and think if we are bringing up our children to never abuse a girl. Because we as society maybe the cause of this.
One of the most persistent myths about rape is that the victim in some way was party to the offence: she was seductive or provocative and "only got what she asked for." Even if it were so-that is, if the victim did in fact act seductively or provocatively-she still retains the right to change her mind. There is no law against saying no, but it is against the law not to accept her refusal. A child is a child and law is law. We as a people must come out of this utter ridiculous myth that rape happens because of sexual deprivation. Some even go to the length of saying that legalising prostitution will curb rape. However, the fact of the matter is that prostitution does exist and it offers no solution since, again, the rapist is not seeking primarily sexual gratification. In fact, prostitutes themselves are sometimes the victims of rape, since they may represent everything the rapist finds threatening and resents in women. We sometimes associate rape culture to pornography. Of course any person maybe stimulated by pornography but rape is an act of “fear and anger”, not sexual charge. That does not mean pornography is to be banned or encouraged. Pornograhy does objectify females, support the position that women are legitimate targets of sexual abuse, and does validate sexist attitude. But it is not a direct stimulant to rape from a clinical point of view. What the rapist always does is shift the responsibility of his act to other things like intoxicants, the dress and behaviour of the woman, etc. Anything but the real issue. Himself.
The reason that as a society we must understand these things, adopt it and discuss is because we are limiting a serious societal problem to very meagre excuses with no research. Basically we are leaving the lives of 10,000 victims (“reported” within 4 years) who’s cases were reported within 4 years to simple dismissals. Of course, not counting our daughters who have not complained, and will not complain in the future. Even to attempt curb this problem we must understand the truths, not leave it to assumptions.
The female victims primary goal at a natural level is to survive the abuse. It’s instinct. Thus, many tend to not give a fight thinking “I need to survive this” because they are always under a death-threat, truly or psychologically. Rather than going deep into lasting psychological effects on the victim let’s look at it this way. If a woman is affected, she should rather know the real reasons why this happened to her rather than the mythology which When something is understood, it is less threatening and disturbing than something which appears mysterious, or bizarre, or unexplainable.
Types of rape
1. Power Rape - It is not the offender's desire to harm his victim but to possess her sexually.
2. Anger Rape - Sexuality becomes a means of expressing and discharging feelings of pent-up anger and rage.
3. Sadistic Rape - In a third pattern of rape, both sexuality and aggression become fused into a single psychological experience known as sadism.
