After reading your post, I still have no idea what "spiritual" or "spirituality" means."Religious people are scared of hell; spiritual people have actually been there."
I heard some woman say this at a Narcotics Anonymous meeting the other day. I have to say that it really resonated with me.
If heaven is a place on earth, hell certainly has a presence here too.
Most self proclaimed "religious" people who I've met, who seem to be paying lip service to the religion they were born into, don't seem to question their concept of spirituality in any analytical way and approach spirituality as if it is some kind of hobby or chore to avoid being burned for eternity. The idea of communicating with god or the universe or whatever as if it were a person sitting in front of you seems completely and utterly ridiculous.
On the other hand, most of my friends and like minded individuals have gone through some first world hell of their own making (as first world problems usually tend to be self-constructed) and we've all seemed to have had genuine spiritual experiences that involved some form of redemption from self-imposed suffering and connection with our surroundings; ultimately there seems to be a consensus that everything that we had gone through had happened for some divine reason (to allow us to experience some form of higher power) and that simply the fact that we are still alive and kicking indicates that there is some purpose for all of us - the fallen ones.
It seems to have a lot of substance to it than: "damn it! we're gonna be late for church!"