Should I just give up? :(

[3.14]

With proper diet and no dangerous activities you can life for another 60 years thats enough time to shed some weight,
first step is relizing it won't happen over night thats the big failure of diets they have short term duration wich means as soon as you quit a diet it will come back. the best thing is to remove around 1500/4000 cal from your regular meals by making smaller portions or eating heathyer.

now since your body is fat it doesn't want to move around alot,
but moving around is a great way to lose weight ,
instead of taking a car take a bike instead of using the remote walk to the tv etc don't underestimate the small things.
every move you make burns a tiny bit of energy but over the course of a year this piles up saving you thousends of callories

Now i don't have a docters degree so i won't be able to tell you the status of your kidneys liver etc but from what you have been telling i would geuss that your organs are not in a good shape, to change this i'd advise you to seek medical attention and have your organs checked out. if one is in bad shape the docter will usualy tell you wich vitamines and medication you will need to swallow

 

[methylatedghosts]

Most of all, learn to feel good about yourself.

Every day, when you get up, say to yourself

"I am an amazing person. I live in health and I love myself and my body."

Or something like that.

Better yet, especially do it when you're standing in front of a mirror. Look into your own eyes and tell yourself you are loving, lovable, that you are worth it, that you are beautiful, that you are slim and healthy (or if that feels too much like a lie, say "I am slimming and becoming more healthy"). Keep the focus of your statements, your affirmations on the positive. Don't say "I am losing weight", because the focus in that sentence is on your weight not being right.

And remind yourself a million times a day that you are beautiful and perfect and healthy and loving etc etc etc. Soon enough you will notice it become reality.

 

[methylatedghosts]

Actually, here's a good one:

"Every day I wake up healthier and healthier"

 

[Halcyon]

I don't know if this will be of any help to your personal situation, but when I was trying to lost weight I read somewhere that quite often we can get the signals for hunger and the signals for mild thirst confused. So, what I started doing was when I felt like a snack but knew I shouldn't really be feeling hungry (since it was only a couple of hours since dinner, for example) I'd have a glass of orange squash or something (flavoured seemed to work better than plain water) and quite often the compulsion to have something to eat would disappear.
I also learnt not to drink fruit juice too much as well, it has a remarkable number of calories, something like 100 per 100ml.

 

[Truth_Faith13]

I don't know if this will be of any help to your personal situation, but when I was trying to lost weight I read somewhere that quite often we can get the signals for hunger and the signals for mild thirst confused. So, what I started doing was when I felt like a snack but knew I shouldn't really be feeling hungry (since it was only a couple of hours since dinner, for example) I'd have a glass of orange squash or something (flavoured seemed to work better than plain water) and quite often the compulsion to have something to eat would disappear.
I also learnt not to drink fruit juice too much as well, it has a remarkable number of calories, something like 100 per 100ml.

Hey! Yes the mind is wonderful at playing tricks on you like that! I love orange juice but am not supposed to drink much of it anyway as it causes me probelms! Due to my kidney! I do anyway though

Anyway I decided to start the cambridge, which I know I know, some of you think is a unhealthy way of dieting. It really isnt. There are some horror stories out there about the diet and its sister diet lighterlife, but those people generally didnt follow the guidelines or do the diet properly. I am on the second day now, hence have slightly more energy because I am getting all the nutrients I need!

Thanks for all your support everyone! It is much appreciated! A big hug to you all!


By the way for those of you really worried about the diet - you can find info at CambridgeDieters.com

 

[Reiðrœska]

Actually, here's a good one:

"Every day I wake up healthier and healthier"

This man is clever, pay attention to him - a positive frame of mind will help more than a weight watchers diet ever could.

With your positive frame of mind, there are still things you need to remember though - "low fat" chocolate/cake isn't low fat, fruit is. So are oats, eat oats for breakfast every day and nothing but oats. Don't starve yourself, that's stupid - eat all you need to stop being hungry, just make sure what you're eating is decent.

As for exercise, HIIT is what you want. High Intensity Interval Training - imagine you have a scale of 1-10, 1 being a casual walk and 10 being the hardest sprint you can possibly do. Jog at 4-5 for a minute, then sprint at 8-9 for 30 seconds. Repeat as many times as you think you can, but remember not to think you can do this 1000000 times, because you won't do it and you'll give up, and don't do it once because that won't get your heart rate up to what you want it at.

Because it's obligatory, I must remind you to do SQUATZ. (It's a joke amongst /fit/ - Health & Fitness who are quite helpful when they're not being retarded).

I'm sorry if I sound patronising or anything, I don't intend to.

 

[Renji]

Lets have some facts about me - I am 22years
old almost 23, 5ft 11 and currently approaching 18stone. I have several
things on my mind and unfortunately to say this will probably turn out
to be my rant thread. My main problem at the moment is my weight.

Gee, we have the same problem. I'm not obese but I'm over weight for my
age. I'm on a diet and extreme exercise. Fortunately, last year, I lost
2 kgs. and I'm hoping to give up more weight. You can do it as much as
I dbesity is the cause of many health problems so go!go!go! on your diet.

 

[Truth_Faith13]

I'm sorry if I sound patronising or anything, I don't intend to.

Not at all! Thankyou!

 

[dawny0826]

Lets have some facts about me - I am 22years old almost 23, 5ft 11 and currently approaching 18stone. I have several things on my mind and unfortunately to say this will probably turn out to be my rant thread. My main problem at the moment is my weight.

Being obese is so depressing! I have never known a life without weight apart from 3 short months when I managed to shift 5stone in my teens. I soon piled the pounds back on though as they seem very eager to find me. I was never too good at hide and seek! :sarcastic. Anyway I am not the overweight person who locks herself in her room, I am lucky in that I have very good friends, have an average social life especially since attending Church where there are some great people, I have a decent educational background getting a 2.2 in my degree. So I do have good points in my life, but my weight just weighs down on all the good! . I wish I could be slim again! I have tried every diet under the sun, and I am quite good in the gym once I actually get off my *** and get there! I have a diet which I really enjoy doing. It is called the Cambridge Diet which is a shakes only diet. I know it sounds extreme but it is perfectly healthy, has all the nutrients and vitamins you need and has the fast weight loss that keeps me going. The only problem is I have such an "addiction" to food at the moment, that I cant even get myself to eat at a normal level never mind getting onto a no food diet for the 6months I would need to get to a healthy weight!

I am starting to give up on the prospect of ever being slim and healthy and finding a boyfriend/future husband and therefore one day having children. My dream life seems to be passing me by. My favourite quote is life is what happens when you are busy making other plans. All through my teens, my 21st was my big goal. To have my weight and health sorted for my 21st birthday. Although I was a slimmer 15st 7lbs for my 21st, that day came and went in the blink of an eye and it is now almost two years on and I am even heavier and further away from my target! . I have blood pressure on top of my weight which means I have to take betablockers. My consultant tells me I will be on these for the rest of my life regardless of losing weight as the BP is due to my kidney being damaged but I am not so sure and am sure if I could just lose the weight, I could live a tablet free life! I am terrified of just being obese for the rest of my life and eventually being on my own. Of course I have lots of friends, but they will one day be married and will start families and will then start to settle down and be too busy for the single life socialising that we do at the moment.

I also worry about what other people think about my weight - why are they looking at me? is it because I am fat? they are probably thinking lazy person who eats too much? I watch people run and jump all over each other, sit on peoples laps and I think I cannot do that because I would squash someone. There was a story of an overweight accountant who squashed his assistant by sitting on him because he was obese in the news when i was at school - made us laugh at the time! I want to go and jump on guys (not in that way) and for them to lift me up over their shoulder like the other girls do, instead of me doing it to the other girls like some guy!)

I just wish I wasnt so weak and I could get on the diet!
I really do feel like just giving up sometimes!

Hugs to you. :hug:

I'm going to let you in on something. I will be thirty years old in January. I have ALWAYS been overweight. I don't know what skinny feels like.

I am happily married and I've been blessed with two beautiful daughters. I am living proof that your dreams can come true, even if you weigh more than you'd like to.

I am usually comfortable in my skin until someone else points out that I don't fit their definition of beautiful. I've come to accept that the only way that I can lead a happy life is to not waste time worrying about what other people think of me and focus on what God thinks of me and how I perceive myself.

Losing weight because you want to be healthy and because you want to feel good about yourself are the RIGHT reasons to diet. I have been working on my weight because I want to be healthy and to feel confident enough to have another baby within the next year or so.

Remember, God knows your heart's desire. If you desire a family, have faith that your dreams will become realized...in God's timing. And if you feel helpless over your weight loss efforts (believe you me I can relate) call upon your Heavenly Father to guide you and give you support.

People let us down. We often let ourselves down. But God will never let us down.

Phillipians 4:13 "I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me."

 

[Truth_Faith13]

Hugs to you. :hug:

I'm going to let you in on something. I will be thirty years old in January. I have ALWAYS been overweight. I don't know what skinny feels like.

I am happily married and I've been blessed with two beautiful daughters. I am living proof that your dreams can come true, even if you weigh more than you'd like to.

I am usually comfortable in my skin until someone else points out that I don't fit their definition of beautiful. I've come to accept that the only way that I can lead a happy life is to not waste time worrying about what other people think of me and focus on what God thinks of me and how I perceive myself.

Losing weight because you want to be healthy and because you want to feel good about yourself are the RIGHT reasons to diet. I have been working on my weight because I want to be healthy and to feel confident enough to have another baby within the next year or so.

Remember, God knows your heart's desire. If you desire a family, have faith that your dreams will become realized...in God's timing. And if you feel helpless over your weight loss efforts (believe you me I can relate) call upon your Heavenly Father to guide you and give you support.

People let us down. We often let ourselves down. But God will never let us down.

Phillipians 4:13 "I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me."

Thankyou so much!!! I know the Heavenly Father is guiding me and supporting me. As of yesterday I have been able to get onto the Cambridge and pray every night for the strength to stick to it. I think I need to learn to trust in the Heavenly Father's judgement, he will know when it is time! As a friend of mine says "He has got my back" It is lovely to hear about your family! All the best for the baby planning! Thankyou once again. Your post has made me feel really good!

 

[methylatedghosts]

Gee, we have the same problem. I'm not obese but I'm over weight for my
age. I'm on a diet and extreme exercise. Fortunately, last year, I lost
2 kgs. and I'm hoping to give up more weight. You can do it as much as
I dbesity is the cause of many health problems so go!go!go! on your diet.

Interesting how you worded that. To "Give up" weight.

To me that sounds like you're forcing yourself to do something you don't actually want to do.

 

[Renji]

No, it's not forcing. It's what we call will and determination. For example, when I exercise, I don't push my self to the limit. I make sure that I enjoy what I'm doing.

 

[texan1]

Hi Dream Angel!

Just wanted to give you a shout out and wish you all the best! Another idea - someone I know who was successful at losing weight did it with a friend. They ate a lot of meals together and met each other for walks several days a week. Since the other person was relying on them, they were less likely to cheat or get lazy about it. It probably also made it more fun.

You might also try giving yourself a "makeover" NOW to feel good about who you are RIGHT NOW. You may not fall into this category, but there are a few overweight people I know who hide behind frumpy baggy clothes and look sloppy all the time...it's like they are waiting until they are thin to be fabulous. And then there are other plump people I know who really know how to dress for their figure and they make a little effort with their hair and makeup and they look GREAT! I'm about to sound like an episode of "what not to wear" but.....don't be afraid to be fabulous NOW! (I know, its easier said than done) Sending you positive thoughts....

YOU CAN DO IT!:yes:

 

[Truth_Faith13]

Hello Everyone!

Thanks for all your kind words of advice and support! It really helped me a long! Thought I would give you a quick update??

I have now lost 17lbs!!! YAY!!

Only another 83lbs to go......

The Cambridge diet is funny, it makes you crave things you dont even like. Prawn Salad for me!!!

 

[Breathe]

Oh wow, congrats!!!

 

[Troublemane]

awesome! thats great!!!

 

[methylatedghosts]

Great work, keep it up!

You're doing wonderfully! ^_^

 

[Renji]

Keep it up, D.A!

 

[Truth_Faith13]

Thanks Guys!!!

 

[blackout]

So glad to hear of your recent success honey. :hug:

I just recently changed my whole diet.
Not so much with a set "expectaiton" of "losing weight"...
but out of a will to lead a better, happier, healthier & longer life on the whole.

While I am not setting foot on a scale...
there is NO WAY I cannot be losing weight.
That I am is Self Evident.
I am sure I will eventually wind up my most healthy and attractive weight
(whatever that may be)
eating... and living... this way.

Do you want to know what inspired me?
and motivated me to change?

Love. :hearts:
and the hope that that Love fills me with.