Audie
Veteran Member
Except in Bangkok?If they did, all flew over me head.
But I'm not the kind of person that
anyone would ever want to pick up.
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Except in Bangkok?If they did, all flew over me head.
But I'm not the kind of person that
anyone would ever want to pick up.
What an unfortunate name for a city.Except in Bangkok?
-I find they don't actually want to know "how are you?" when they ask.I sympathize. BTW, when at gatherings where
unfamiliar people want to make small talk with
me, I find it stressful.
No, not NYC at all. Southwestern Ohio.Now, personally, i like and seem physiologically suited to
our weather here.
Tho at the moment , its windy, hot, pouring rain and
forcast is for more of the same as far out as forecasts go.
Where is your fab weather? Not NYC!!
5 yrs there convinced me im not a new yorker.
Some ways to scare off small talkers....-I find they don't actually want to know "how are you?" when they ask.
I tell them anyways.
Generally, most don't attempt again.
And if they do, it means they're thick enough skinned we may actually have stuff to talk about.
I'm not very good at social at purely social occasions in steering the conversation. I'm timid in social occasions in such matters. I have always been like that. I'm an autistic person that like most autistic people are not good dealing with social occasions. I'm like Temple Grandin, a famous person in autism circles, who interacts with people in occasions that are meaningful to them, not social occasions. Social occasions tend to seem boring to people like us. Talking about religion is not meaningful to you, and that is your prerogative. We are different people.Talk quality depends entirely on you.
What you have to say, and the people you
choose to associate with.
As for awful, theres hardly worse than
paragraphs, pages, treatises of fluffed up
" spiritual" writing.
You thoughtfully provided an example, stripped of fluff:
" Prophets claim messages from god.
Heres a summary to act on."
Thats all it says
Excerpt:
" we have taken the essence thereof and
clothed it in the garment of brevity " ( italics added)
I can do a little small talk, but it stops there. After that, I am lost. I don't know what to do without offending the person. I am an anxious kind of person in that regard, and am anxious in general interacting with people in social occasions. Then I want to leave the social occasion.Small talk is all about establishing rapport
I enjoy it
I prefer having more substantial conversations but small talk has its role
It helps increase familiarity, it helps you better know a person so you can then go on and have a more deep and meaningful conversation
Lovely weather we're having!!
That might be good strategy, though I don't know if I have the lack of timidity or enough courage to do that. I always say "fine" to strangers, or say "hi" instead or say nothing at all because to me it seems like a meaningless ritual. If I know someone pretty well already and we are friends I could say how I'm doing. Then it might not be a ritual. If things are bad for me I might keep my mouth shut in situation even then, because I don't want to thrust this news on a friend. I used to think it was always a meaningless ritual. I've come to realize that is not the case.-I find they don't actually want to know "how are you?" when they ask.
I tell them anyways.
Generally, most don't attempt again.
And if they do, it means they're thick enough skinned we may actually have stuff to talk about.
Oh, yeah, I remember now that you live in my area.No, not NYC at all. Southwestern Ohio.
I live out in the country between Dayton and Cincinnati. So far, I love it but I've only been here through the summer.Oh, yeah, I remember now that you live in my area.
Yes, I live in the suburbs of Dayton in Montgomery County. I've lived in this vicinity since 1972, at least most of the time. I spent three years in San Antonio, Texas in between because my company sent me there. I've travelled between Dayton and Cincinnati. It's about an hour drive. My son Michael lives in Hamilton county, in Fairfield, Ohio, which is near Cincinnati.I live out in the country between Dayton and Cincinnati. So far, I love it but I've only been here through the summer.
That's all so crazy! My daughter lives in Lebanon, and I live in Xenia! My brother used to live in Arcanum! When we were kids we lived in Groveport!Yes, I live in the suburbs of Dayton in Montgomery County. I've travelled between Dayton and Cincinnati. It's about an hour drive. My son Michael lives in Hamilton county, in Fairfield, Ohio, which is near Cincinnati.
I didn't used to have the lack of timidity...That might be good strategy, though I don't know if I have the lack of timidity or enough courage to do that. I always say "fine" to strangers, or say "hi" instead or say nothing at all because to me it seems like a meaningless ritual. If I know someone pretty well already and we are friends I could say how I'm doing. Then it might not be a ritual. If things are bad for me I might keep my mouth shut in situation even then, because I don't want to thrust this news on a friend. I used to think it was always a meaningless ritual. I've come to realize that is not the case.
When I travelled to this area with my parents, I initially lived in Xenia until about 1980, then I was in Beavercreek for a couple of years, went to San Antonio, and came back to where I live now. I know there is a famous restaurant named the Golden Lamb in Lebanon.That's all so crazy! My daughter lives in Lebanon, and I live in Xenia! My brother used to live in Arcanum! When we were kids we lived in Groveport!
I live in Greene County. Anyway, it's beautiful around here.
Yes, we ate there right after I came, on Mother's Day! Did you live in Xenia when the tornado hit it? It was 1974 or 1973, I wasn't here and don't remember it. But some people sure do.When I travelled to this area with my parents, I initially lived in Xenia until about 1980, then I was in Beavercreek for a couple of years, went to San Antonio, and came back to where I live now. I know there is a famous restaurant named the Golden Lamb in Lebanon.
Of course we are different.I'm not very good at social at purely social occasions in steering the conversation. I'm timid in social occasions in such matters. I have always been like that. I'm an autistic person that like most autistic people are not good dealing with social occasions. I'm like Temple Grandin, a famous person in autism circles, who interacts with people in occasions that are meaningful to them, not social occasions. Social occasions tend to seem boring to people like us. Talking about religion is not meaningful to you, and that is your prerogative. We are different people.
Part of OH that's less infested with Amish.I live out in the country between Dayton and Cincinnati. So far, I love it but I've only been here through the summer.
That's the truth though they are still around.Part of OH that's less infested with Amish.
Between Canton & Columbus,That's the truth though they are still around.