How many pastors DON'T believe that homosexuality justifies eternal perdition?
Irrelevant what he felt. He's a purveyor of some of the hatred in his Bible whatever he's feeling. Cold bigotry, or the condescending bigotry of lowered expectations, is bigotry nevertheless. It might be easier to see in the misogyny. How many men lovingly consider women inferior and don't think education is really right for a woman's mind? They would tell you that they're loving and caring, and perhaps they don't feel any malice. So what?
And of course, it's how the general public perceives this that is relevant, not what defenders of the faith say in its defense. It may comfort you to say that there is no hatred there, but that's not what outsiders see. What they see are followers of a bigoted, intolerant deity imitating that deity's bigotry and intolerance. Does it matter what they feel?
Maybe Christians should be a little more interested in what non-Christians are telling them about what they see. It doesn't matter at all to the unbeliever that Christians disavow Christian bad actors and try to call them not Christian. Of course they are Christian and also the fruit of Christianity. Outsiders don't care what the book says, which the believer will point to to define true Christianity. That's fantasy Christianity, what we wish we were Christianity, how we'd like to be perceived Christianity.
But "true" Christianity is actual Christianity as seen on the streets, not the words in the book. Humanists could teach these Christians a few things about the Golden Rule, and they don't have a holy book. Maybe that's in part why. How can Christians learn to love one another when the gold standard for love is that deity? Why wouldn't Christians be homophobes or consider themselves loving for being such if their god wasn't also a homophobe and described as the exemplar of perfect love?