You don't like that "list of terms" is what DEFINES gaslighting. I prefer to use the term itself which I find utterly adequate and accurate because the behavior contains more than one of those terms. You are, of course, free to do the wrong thing and to cast aspersions on me for using the correct term. It's the price I pay for being on the internet and especially on a site with anonymous users.Sounds like a list of terms that are better than "gaslighting".
But if one wants to feel the victim, it's the go to shibboleth.