I wish I could find one way - any way of stopping the following from happening:
1. My daughter bringing all of her dirty plates, dishes, rubbish etc out of her room five freaking minutes after I have just finished washing up and cleaning the kitchen and just dumping it all in the sink and walking away.
Now, this happens at least 3-4 times a week, and I have asked her to clean it up, or bring them to me 10 minutes before bringing them to me...and whenever I ask her if she has any dirty dishes, the answer is 'no' (she hides them all under her bed).
So apart from enforcing a law 'no meals to be taken in bedrooms' what else can I do?
2. People playing with the hot/cold water taps in the kitchen the very second I step into the shower...it's like they do it on purpose and saying 'I am going to have a shower now, if you need to make coffee etc, please do so now, before I go' never works. The only thing I can do, is to remove the tap handles before I shower and replace them when I have finished - or pay for a plumber (ask the owner) to have hot/cold water on different systems.
3. My parents phoning me whenever I am on the lavatory....it seems like they know! They have 'toilet eyes', so, apart from taking my phone into the loo and texting while I squat...or phoning them beforehand saying 'please don't phone me for the next 5 minutes because I will be taking a bog'...what can one do?
Why is it that everybody wants to do exactly the same thing at exactly the same time I want to do it - yet I am always there first (being I was raised 'first in best dressed' and 'the early bird gets the worm'...but I am always pushed out of the way by all the latecomers?
Why does everybody else (it is not me) have so much bloody lousy timing? How do I fix the lousy timing of others, besides waking up at 3-4 am and having a shower and cleaning the kitchen then while everybody else is asleep and wake them all up?
How do I fix the timing of other people (who will not work to a roster or roomate agreement? I have also tried that and got laughed at).
My life sucks...
No problem, here is how this is fixed:
1. Daughter will clean up after herself or move out. If she is too young for that, then you will simply not feed her until all dishes are accounted for and cleaned. There is no walking away from choresor is she actually paying you for wasting your time on that? Then you should charge her according to local prices for services rendered.
2. Parents phone calls can go to voice mail and you call back when its convenient for you. I assume that they have noticed that you have your own life and are no longer a minor in need of supervision.
3. Hot and cold water: Tell the people concerned to stay away from all faucets until you are done. I am sure they can handle not having running water for the 5-10 minutes it takes you to take a shower. And to reinforce it, be selfish. Run hot/cold water when they are in the shower and ask them how they like this kind of disrespect. It will cure them after a few tries. People can be conditioned just like dogsthey are just a bit slower in the uptake at times.
4. If you dont want to be pushed around then you need to grow a pair and push back. Stand up for yourself and assert your needs and wants. Or do you think someone else will do it for you?
5. Stop being everything for everyone else. Let people do their own work, clean up after themselves, feed themselves, talk to people when you have time and not when they feel like wasting your time and make time for yourself. If you do not assert yourself, no-one will suddenly wake up and realize you are a person and not just their servant.
6. No more being a doormat. If they laugh at you, then they clearly use you and do not take you seriously because they know that you will pick up the slack. SO STOP!!!
Your life sucks because you think you need to be nice. but what you are really doing is showing them that you can be taken advantage off.
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