what a weird day first with cashier boy. he was a beautiful kid. i was looking down then i thought i should look him in the eyes. when i looked his eyes, something happened to his face, like a tic as if i was doing something to him. could not get it. then i turned away and as i walk away from him i basicly tripped myself with my foot. after that shop i went to supermarket and had couple of things, started waiting in the line to pay for them. a guy came and he just stood infront of me as if i was not there or as if i was standing there to get some air. that made me little upset then i thought to myself "Oh maybe he is so tired, i should just say nothing and let him take my place." so i stood behind him. then a lady came and she managed to stood between me and him. i asked her if she was with him. she said no. i said that first gentleman came and took my place, now she came and took my place. guy immediately turned to me and said that he was aware of me lady said "no, no, i just have one thing to pay". i said "and i have couple of things". rrr i was eventually disturbed. she was an old woman and if i saw her waiting behind me, as i always do, i would have given her my place. if she asked me for it, i would have given her my place. but saying nothing and taking my place just like that made me angry. i rarely refuse old people, well almost never. so i felt bad. i apologized from God and i admitted i would not apologize from her. i just could not. though i felt bad about my coldness towards her, i didn't feel like i owe her an apology. i don't mind giving up my own right when someone needs me to but when it is taken away without permission i would not let go. that makes me rebel
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Hi .Lava, I have had this experience and thought a lot about it. It is almost amazing that other people appear to have so little consideration. It makes you question weather the consideration you have actually has any value or if it is just considered weak or silly. The idea comes that one should be more assertive or even agressive, personally I think that the whole thing is a test, and only you will learn from.
Here a couple of thoughts with dealing with it which I use:
1) I consider if it matters to me, time wise, often it does not, and I then make a point of knowing that I am potentially a good person in giving my time, in the form of space in a queue, to others. This does not reflect on you, your personality, as they don't know you and who is to say that you are not giving way consciously desptie the lack of communication.
2) would you/I do it to another person? I don't think so, it would be very uncomfortable. Then there is no point to take it personally, as it would mean that I am going against myself and it will play on my mind as a "good person".
3) My/your value as a person doesn't change if you encounter selfishness and inconsideration, in fact you demonstrate the wealth of wisdom, unconditional love for God's creation to smile and let them know you are happier than they are with God at your side.
4) Know that nothing in life goes unnoticed. God is omniscient and omnipresent. Our actions carry a result which will continue in life, not immediately but at some point these people will feel the affect of their selfishness... may God take mercy on them and their families.