Whilst I can certainly agree with you. Politeness is a two way street, certainly
I haven’t seen much in the way of folks asking for more than preferred pronouns.
All I can see is people complaining that they have to use a few extra pronouns for people. As if it’s the end of the world and that it’s some sort of evidence that the human race is doomed or whatever
I've never met anyone who even requested "they", only to change she for he and vice versa.
It's no big deal, just a bit pretentious and conceited to expect others to use bespoke pronouns.
If a celeb demands staff don't look them in the eye it's not the end of the world either, just a bit pretentious and conceited.
Which strikes me as rather rude and quite pathetic, honestly.
If I’m wrong about that, then I do certainly apologise.
Truth be told I couldn’t care less outside of such discussions. And even then I wonder how much I truly care
Someone wants me to refer to them as Xer?
Does it hurt me? Does it cost me my bourbon?
If not, why the hell should I give a damn?
If someone wants people to salute and quickly dance the hucklebuck it doesn't hurt to humour them either, but many people would see the expectation as a bit presumptuous and the reluctance to go along as quite reasonable.
Hypothetically, if even a few % of people started using bespoke pronouns including irregular combinations of them it would make communication a fair bit more awkward.
There is a good case that expecting to be accommodated to this extent this is more rude than people being not wanting to use terms like wer/fae/xyrs
I only do so, because I do not wish to appear rude. In either respective scenario. And indeed these rules change based on nothing more than needing to address my elders who are Indian vs my elders who are Australian.
Does this change hurt me? It does require a certain level of effort on my part and indeed I have to translate such scenarios through two very different cultural lenses
Even accounting for cross over, since my family is mixed race.
If I can do this from a very young age even. I have to ask
What excuse can an adult offer for not even doing the bare minimum for just their own cultural politeness. So to speak?
Having lived in quite a few countries, I understand the need to adapt your behaviour to conform to cultural expectations, even when it goes against your natural instincts.
General cultural rules tend to be quite standard though and intuitive once you know them.
Pronouns beyond visually recognising a he/she have to be learned on an individual basis as you can't tell a xe from a fae from an ey.
With he/she/they it's easy enough to adapt to someone's preferences once they are brought to your attention, and people certainly should do this imo.
If my work told me I needed to use bespoke pronouns beyond these on request I would try my best to get them right and wouldn't cry about it, I'd just think the person requesting them in a formal situation was a bit of a bellend.
