I agree that it’s just good manners to call someone by their preferred pronoun out of he/she/they. This is fair enough as it doesn't really impose on people at all, and covers male/female/neutral.
Expecting others go beyond these is rather conceited though imo. Politeness is 2 way, folk should make reasonable allowances for others, but they should also try to avoid imposing on others. Expecting near unlimited choice of preferred ways of address does impose on others, especially when you know making errors might offend.
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Whilst I can certainly agree with you. Politeness is a two way street, certainly
I haven’t seen much in the way of folks asking for more than preferred pronouns.
All I can see is people complaining that they have to use a few extra pronouns for people. As if it’s the end of the world and that it’s some sort of evidence that the human race is doomed or whatever
Which strikes me as rather rude and quite pathetic, honestly.
If I’m wrong about that, then I do certainly apologise.
Truth be told I couldn’t care less outside of such discussions. And even then I wonder how much I truly care
Someone wants me to refer to them as Xer?
Does it hurt me? Does it cost me my bourbon?
If not, why the hell should I give a damn?
It's no different from someone with a PhD in English demanding you call them Doctor Smith rather than Mr Smith, or someone demanding to be called Sir Henry rather than Henry. If folk want to do it fair enough, if not then fair enough too.
True.
No one should be compelled to use any title they don’t want to.
But that’s the thing, isn’t it?
All politeness, all common decency relies exclusively upon the willingness of all the participants. Does it not?
What really compels a person to use titles such as Mr or Mrs? Or titles such as Aunty or Uncle?
I use such titles interchangeably and indeed based exclusively upon cultural perimeters. Nothing else.
I only do so, because I do not wish to appear rude. In either respective scenario. And indeed these rules change based on nothing more than needing to address my elders who are Indian vs my elders who are Australian.
Does this change hurt me? It does require a certain level of effort on my part and indeed I have to translate such scenarios through two very different cultural lenses
Even accounting for cross over, since my family is mixed race.
If I can do this from a very young age even. I have to ask
What excuse can an adult offer for not even doing the bare minimum for just their own cultural politeness. So to speak?
(if you follow?)
From my point of view such a lack of willingness to participate in such a rather easy polite exchange of preferred pronouns is nothing more than laziness at best and outright rudeness at worst
Again be thankful you’re speaking English. Other languages are not so easy going with Pronouns.
Bunch of crybabies, I swear