Those who identify as Jehovah's Witnesses but who wish to break the laws of God unrepentantly, or who wish to slander the ones we are told to obey (Heb 13:7, 17) will not be treated as if they still qualify as spiritual family members.
Those who wish to leave are free to go, but those who want to stay and whine about the elders or who want to engage in unchristian conduct, will be disciplined.....or disfellowshipped. We have rules because God has rules. We don't stop talking to people just because they want to leave. We hope they will come back. We stop talking to trouble makers who wish to take away our peace. One of God's pet peeves is those who stir up contentions amongst the brotherhood.
Proverbs 6:16-19....
"There are six things which the Lord hates,Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him: Haughty eyes, a lying tongue, And hands that shed innocent blood, A heart that devises wicked plans, Feet that run rapidly to evil, A false witness who utters lies, And one who spreads strife among brothers."
We keep apostates and wilful sinners out of our congregations because they are poisonous to us. They are not content to just leave and let go...they want to spread their poison because it justifies their defection. They are basically left with nowhere to go, so instead of repenting they just want to get even. Hateful vendettas follow. Then you have the self-righteous crusaders who pick up on the negative feedback and see it as their job to save everyone from the evil clutches of JW's. Perhaps they should spend as much time making trouble for ISIS?
I don't think we've beheaded anyone lately.
When we are baptised as Christ's disciples, we make a vow to God that we will become his Witnesses as disciples of his son. We recognise the Christian congregation as God's organisation on earth. God has always had an organised people who were given his laws and who were considered his property. Failure to obey the laws of God incurred a penalty. If repentance was demonstrated, then mercy was shown.
We keep to that standard because it is what was exercised in Israel and in the first century Christian congregations.
1 Corinthians 5:9-13....
"When I wrote to you before, I told you not to associate with people who indulge in sexual sin. But I wasn’t talking about unbelievers who indulge in sexual sin, or are greedy, or cheat people, or worship idols. You would have to leave this world to avoid people like that. I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people. It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. God will judge those on the outside; but as the Scriptures say, “You must remove the evil person from among you.” (NLT)
Authority to judge inside the congregations was given to those in possession of that authority...whilst God will judge those outside. We are instructed to remove the sinner, who has failed to mend their ways.
For those who want to teach something different, according to their own ideas, John has this to say....
2 John 1:10-11....
"If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, do not receive him into your house or give him any greeting, for whoever greets him takes part in his wicked works. ." (ESV)
These are the reasons for disfellowshipping. Someone who simply stops coming to meetings is not disfellowshipped.
A person who wants to be their own version of a JW and influence others in the congregation in a negative way, is not welcome. We make no apology for that.