Trailblazer
Veteran Member
That’s the breaks. God separates out those who truly love Him and believe in Him by making it tough. Sex is not a necessity and as people get older they hopefully realize that. But when people are younger they can have as much sex as they want as long as they are married, so what’s the big deal about the law? I had plenty of sex back when I was interested in it but I waited till I got married, and so did my husband, as we were both Baha’is. But I would have waited anyway because I never believed in sex out of wedlock even before I became a Baha’i. Now I wonder why I ever thought sex was so great. It was just a physical thing, nothing more. Sex definitely came in between me and God. I am much happier now that I have no more desire for it and I never even think about it unless someone posts about it on a forum.You've said that you had a time when you were blaming God. That's what I go through also. Some things seem too random to think that an all-knowing, all-loving, just God is in control. But there is another problem I think affects people in their decision to believe in God or not, and that is his rules and laws.
To look at how life works, it sure seems like sexual attraction was put there on purpose. With humans, bigger stronger, good looking men or rich and powerful men are going to have a much better chance at... getting laid. Great looking woman with awesome bodies or "easy" women are going to have more men chasing after them. But then God says "no". Don't do it. Don't even think about it, unless you are married?
Did it ever occur to you there might be a good reason for all these religious laws? Admittedly, the OT laws are pretty extreme but maybe that is because people who lived back then needed extreme laws.In the Bible God said to stone adulterers to death. Same thing with people that are attracted to the same sex and follow through with those desires. God said in the Bible... stone them. Then the NT, Jesus said that anyone that looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. The NT also condemns fornication and homosexuality. God's laws with the Baha'i Faith are pretty much the same, but God no longer requires them to be killed.
I will not comment on other people breaking laws because it is none of my business, but Baha’u’llah had something to say about those Baha’is...Now this goes back to what I was saying earlier, that people are turned off by God and his religions when the people that are in those religions are acting hypocritically. I've known Christians and Baha'is that didn't and they said they couldn't live by those sexual laws of their religion. They chose to stay in the religion, supporting all the other things taught by the religion, but in this one thing, they break God's law. And then what happens? They can't admit in public. So they have to pretend they are good Christians or Baha'i, but in reality, they are living a lie.
“My captivity can bring on Me no shame. Nay, by My life, it conferreth on Me glory. That which can make Me ashamed is the conduct of such of My followers as profess to love Me, yet in fact follow the Evil One. They, indeed, are of the lost.
When the time set for this Revelation was fulfilled, and He Who is the Day Star of the world appeared in ‘Iráq, He bade His followers observe that which would sanctify them from all earthly defilements. Some preferred to follow the desires of a corrupt inclination, while others walked in the way of righteousness and truth, and were rightly guided.”
Gleanings From the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh, pp. 117-118
No, God does not say no. God says say yes, but only in marriage. Then we get older and hopefully we wake up and smell the coffee and realize what is really important in life, and it is nothing physical.Now whose fault is this? People didn't create the hormones that cause people to have sexual desires. Supposedly God did. Sex feels good. Being loved and touched, physically, feels good. People have to search for and pick out the people they think might want to have sex with them, but God says "No"? To put away those thoughts? God's the one, supposedly, that put all those things in motion. Or did he?
These laws can be obeyed even if they aren’t. I was a virgin when I got married at age 32 and my husband was also a virgin and he was 42. Just because some Baha’is find it “inconvenient” to deny their sexual desires does not mean it cannot be done and there is a great reward for those people who adhere to the law, even if they do not realize it right away, or even in this world.For as great and wonderful the Baha'i Faith is, it still has sexual rules that, like all other religions, won't and can't be obeyed.
Good riddance to bad rubbish, people who consider physical pleasure more important than God. God can easily dispense with them.So would a real God keep doing this to people? To make them "horny as hell" and then tell them not to do those things? What has happened and what very well could continue to happen is that people will reject the religion and God and follow their sexual urges.
These laws are not impossible. Most Baha’is I know are married so it is no problem. Whenever I have to rent one of my houses I see the deleterious effects on people who are not married and remarried and living together out of wedlock; all the children are split up and going back and forth from one parent to another and they have no stability. These people are not happy, it is the long married couples who are happy. Clearly, society would be much better off if people adhered to the laws of God.Also, what will probably continue to happen is that people, including the higher ups and leaders of the religion, will get caught in sexual affairs... both heterosexual and homosexual. So can this be from God? How will it be different with this set of divine decrees? Or, is it just people making up laws that they feel are necessary and then saying they came from an invisible God? A God that makes impossible laws that only make the believers feel ashamed and guilty when they, inevitably, break those laws.
It is not my place to judge anyone else, but here is one thing Baha’u’llah had to say about the laws.
“They whom God hath endued with insight will readily recognize that the precepts laid down by God constitute the highest means for the maintenance of order in the world and the security of its peoples. He that turneth away from them, is accounted among the abject and foolish. We, verily, have commanded you to refuse the dictates of your evil passions and corrupt desires, and not to transgress the bounds which the Pen of the Most High hath fixed, for these are the breath of life unto all created things. The seas of Divine wisdom and divine utterance have risen under the breath of the breeze of the All-Merciful. Hasten to drink your fill, O men of understanding! They that have violated the Covenant of God by breaking His commandments, and have turned back on their heels, these have erred grievously in the sight of God, the All-Possessing, the Most High.”
Gleanings From the Writings of Bahá’u’lláh, p. 331