So the evolution of my reproductive system depends on the evolution of my wifes reproductive system??? Absurd.
Your understanding of evolution is absurd. If you were born with a genetic mutation that made your reproductive organs less likely to help produce viable offspring, chances are, you wouldn't produce viable offspring and your mutation would die with you. If you had a mutation that facilitated reproduction, chances are, you'd produce viable offspring and the genes for that mutation would be passed on from generation to generation through the population. Please understand natural selection.
But in order to "grow a set of gonads" that are useful is presupposing the need to grow anything useful. As it goes through the selection process of deciding what is useful and what isn't useful, how was any reproduction taking place? Remember, natural selection selects, so before it found the right selection, how was there any reproduction?
Because changes happen gradually. Let me give you a good example. Let's say you had some genetic mutation that inhibited your ability to produce a lot of sperm. Chances are, you wouldn't produce viable offspring. That disadvantageous mutation would die out with you. Let's say the opposite now. Let's say the mutation allowed you to produce more sperm. Chances are that you'd produce more viable offspring and you'd pass on your advantageous genetics to the next generation.
Ok, so during this "killing off" process, how was there any reproduction? And whatever stage of reproduction that this process went through, there had to be compatibility on all stages, the first through the last.
The first question shows your lack of understanding of what natural selection is. Natural selection isn't some magical force that inspects people's gonads for quality and kills them if they're not up to snuff. You are born with a certain set of genetics. Some of your genetics give you advantages over others. Some genetics put you at a disadvantage. Any genetics that increase your survivability and chances of reproduction will likely be passed on after you die.
You confuse compatibility with perfection. A set of male and female reproductive organs that are successful only 25% of the time is far better than a set that's only has a success rate of 24%.
It has? Where, because I didnt see it. All you did was presuppose compatibility without explaining how things became compatible. That cant be the best you have.
It's rather idiotic to claim that organisms that sexually reproduce at one point didn't have compatible reproductive organs. If they weren't compatible, they wouldn't be able to reproduce, and they would die out. Such a prediction flies in the face of natural selection which would select for organisms that have better success at reproduction.
And thats my point. On your view, it takes time. If it will take a million years before one gender develops the right system to reproduce with the other, how was there any reproducing of any kind during that million year stretch??? A male and a female have two different systems that are compatible. This compatibility had to be "fine tuned" as an initial conditon of the species. This is not something that could have happened over millions of years with wishful thinking.
Some "fine tuning". How are some men and women born sterile, then? Seems like your god has a rather unintelligent design. Nonetheless, you miss the entire point of natural selection. If someone developed a mutation that was not advantageous to reproduction, that person would not be likely to reproduce and they, and their mutation, would die out. Natural selection demands compatibility between the organs of sexually reproducing organisms.
You already said that it takes time. And my question is, in that time, how was there any reproduction at all?? If I am building a car and I have built the whole car and all i need is the motor, and my friend takes a million years to build the motor, how will I ever get my car to run if I have to wait a million years for him to build the motor?? Obviously, I wont be driving the car for a long time. This is the same thing with the gender problem.
If you insist on using a car analogy, a more accurate one would be that you're building a car. You have the chassis and the wheels and steering wheel.
In order for the car (and driver) to survive the roads, safety features need to be developed. Cars with a windshield and sideview mirrors are more likely to be safer on the roads than cars without them. The cars without them crash and are junked. The cars with windshields and sideview mirrors survive.
The direction of "evolution" the car takes depends on your "environment". If you're at the race track, cars will be selected for speed. The cars will be made lighter, more aerodynamic, and have faster and more powerful engines as more people develop ideas to improve the speed. If you're at a loading dock, cars will be selected for space until they eventually are just a big, large cargo hold. If you're at soccer practice, cars will be selected for Ford Windstars. If you're at the gas pump, cars will be selected for fuel efficiency.
So our "model-T" eventually "evolves" into Ferraris, Ford Windstars, SmartCars, and transport trucks, all of which are more complex than the original and very different from each other. They all serve different functions in different environments and are each best suited for their environments. Do you understand it now?
You are begging the question. I am asking how can a unguided and blind process produce this much specified complexity and your answer is genetic mutation regulated by natural selection, which doesnt answer the question because before you can have genetic material you have to have cells and dna, and these are the two things that are IN QUESTION AS TO HOW AND WHY ARE THEY COMPLEX.
In addition to my last point, evolution is not "unguided". It's "guided" by the environment of a particular population. Things like climate changes, predation, scarcity of food, migration all affect how a population will evolve.
Lastly, with regards to "intelligent design" not being from one specific god, then by your own admission, even if you can prove that IDiocy is the way to go, you still can never determine whether Endovelicus or Zeus created everything and you have no objective means of determining that.