The vast majority of friends I've left behind was when I left a particular religion. Their views were pretty uniformly misogynist and homophobic, but I can't honestly say thats why I left. I left because I realized I didn't believe in gods and that made me an apostate in their eyes, so the withdrawal was mutual.
There's only been a couple times I can remember ending a friendship. And the reasons were more like safety or because the friend was having an active hidden affair against the other friend.
I don't know if it's because I let my values be pretty well known to people I associate with, or because I live in a pretty liberal area, but so far a social phobia has not come up. So I can only guess at how I'd actually confront that problem.
What I can say is that I dislike being in friend groups with a black sheep. So if someone treats me well but treats someone else poorly, or is consistently backbiting other people then I probably won't hang around them. If they're nurturing private hate, it matters to me less than how they actually behave. (Intent < impact) But it does still matter some, depending on how and to what extent they're nurturing their private hate.
There's only been a couple times I can remember ending a friendship. And the reasons were more like safety or because the friend was having an active hidden affair against the other friend.
I don't know if it's because I let my values be pretty well known to people I associate with, or because I live in a pretty liberal area, but so far a social phobia has not come up. So I can only guess at how I'd actually confront that problem.
What I can say is that I dislike being in friend groups with a black sheep. So if someone treats me well but treats someone else poorly, or is consistently backbiting other people then I probably won't hang around them. If they're nurturing private hate, it matters to me less than how they actually behave. (Intent < impact) But it does still matter some, depending on how and to what extent they're nurturing their private hate.