When did you realize you were....

[Drolefille]

I ID more as pansexual than bisexual. But it works well enough.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

I voted as "queer" since transgender isn't a sexual orientation.

 

[Vinayaka]

Kind of "other."

I'm a man, and I'm sexually attracted to women but not to men. I also strongly relate to women far more than I relate to men, though not to the degree of being a woman in a man's body.

Therefore, about a month ago, I realized a term that I could call myself: a male lesbian.

That's me too. I find men generally too revolting. Not all, just generally. All the staffs I've ever been on, my best friends were the women. I knew I was hetero at about age 13, noticing classmate's curves. Course back then I didn't know there was gay.

 

[Gehennaite]

I voted "other". I'm celibate, but if the world was a better place I'd consider a relationship with a transwoman.

 

[Nymphs]

I ID more as pansexual than bisexual. But it works well enough.

I'm pretty darn sure I'm pansexual, but have not had enough experience to confirm that.

 

[Nymphs]

I voted as "queer" since transgender isn't a sexual orientation.

Fair-enough.

 

[Drolefille]

I'm pretty darn sure I'm pansexual, but have not had enough experience to confirm that.

I sat there for a while, I went with "heteroflexible" when I knew i was attracted to women but had never actually dated one because who knows right? I've since realized that gender doesn't seem to affect my attraction much (I do sometimes want a girlfriend because I don't have one... but IDK what exactly I'm looking for there, it's wibbly wobbly.)

If anything I'm sapiosexual - attracted to intelligence and personalities - over any particular gender. Although I do find gender ambiguity/flexibility/bending/queer quite attractive and intriguing.

 

[Nymphs]

If anything I'm sapiosexual - attracted to intelligence and personalities - over any particular gender. Although I do find gender ambiguity/flexibility/bending/queer quite attractive and intriguing.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[Penumbra]

I'm always a bit unclear on exactly the difference between bisexual and pansexual.

I mean I know it in theory: bi means two and pan means all. But in practice it seems that 99% of the time people are either male or female identified. So I guess pan just adds that extra 1% for neutral androgenous or genderqueer people.

 

[Drolefille]

I'm always a bit unclear on exactly the difference between bisexual and pansexual.

I mean I know it in theory: bi means two and pan means all. But in practice it seems that 99% of the time people are either male or female identified. So I guess pan just adds that extra 1% for neutral androgenous or genderqueer people.

For me: Because gender isn't relevant to my attraction pansexual fits better what I intend when I define myself.
For some: Pansexual is more inclusive of trans* or genderqueer people

For me: Bisexual means attracted to both "homo" (same) and "hetero" (different) people. As everyone is either the same or different than me, it means the same.

For some: Bisexual excludes trans people (and there are some bi people who DO exclude trans people explicitly) or may be into men and women for different reasons.

I use bisexual when it's convenient and I don't want to explain that I'm neither attracted to cookware nor gods of nature.

Spoiler: Scratch that, he IS kind of hot

I use pansexual to explicitly make it clear that I'm into people not genders.

 

[Penumbra]

For me: Because gender isn't relevant to my attraction pansexual fits better what I intend when I define myself.
For some: Pansexual is more inclusive of trans* or genderqueer people

For me: Bisexual means attracted to both "homo" (same) and "hetero" (different) people. As everyone is either the same or different than me, it means the same.

For some: Bisexual excludes trans people (and there are some bi people who DO exclude trans people explicitly) or may be into men and women for different reasons.

I use bisexual when it's convenient and I don't want to explain that I'm neither attracted to cookware nor gods of nature.

Spoiler: Scratch that, he IS kind of hot

I use pansexual to explicitly make it clear that I'm into people not genders.

I do not exclude transgender people or put them in some separate category. Maybe that's why the bi/pan distinction isn't very critical to me.

The remaining difference would be the strictly genderqueer or androgynous people that fall into the pan category but not the bi category.

 

[kashmir]

LOL You didn't attend the Middle School I went to, clearly.

Besides, I've wondered if I were subconsciously bi or gay every now and then (well, it would be bi at this point. ^_^) It's more common than you'd think.

People don't have to realize they are straight.

You are talking about those who ponder if they might be gay or bi are a different situation, but even then, they didn't start by realizing they are straight, they realize they might be different.

People do not experiment with other sex's by default to realize if they are straight or not.
Some may be confused, but that is a completely diff situation.

Again, by default, people do not come into this world confused and have to experiment to realize who they are.

Even transgenders know as infants they are living in the wrong body.
That is valid proof of it's reality, they didn't have to "realize" anything, it was born into them and they knew as default, who they were.

It is the ones around them that have to come to the realization.
In every single case I have read or watched on TV or YT, these people realize who they are before they even have the ability to read or write.

Off topic, it's kick butt that the other small children around them accept them as is, but the adults do not and refuse to accept it as face value.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

I found out I was straight immediately after I hit puberty. I remember that one week, the first time I ever had fantasies, I was a horny little bugger that week.

 

[Nymphs]

People don't have to realize they are straight.

They don't have to, but they do. In fact, there have been several examples in this thread alone of that. For your sake (as I know you won't go back and look yourself), here are those statements:

I didn't know the concept of hetero, bi, homo etc. until I was round 10 years old. But since I was 5yrs old I was having intense crushes on boys. Never once did I feel attracted to or 'in love' with girls. So I guess I realised I'm about as hetero as they come is when I was around 10- when I found out there are other possibilities.

Straight........ and Proud!

I was 5yrs old and at primary school. The boys queued to go into school in one line, and the girls in another. There was this girl, and whenever she looked across at the boy's line and caught eye contact with me she would smile, and I felt very very funny all over, and my ears rang inside. I never could keep eye contact and often did silly things like drop my satchel or tread on the toes of the boy behind me, etc. It would be another 9 years before I could actually have a girlfriend, and I still remember the first proper kiss.......... We lived on an island in the Thames Estuary, and so we would row a small dinghy into the tidal ditches (where we could not be seen) to snog...... oh, the magic of those times.....

Yep..... straight.

I recall first feeling strongly attracted to women at 12-13, so that was when I realized I was heterosexual/"straight."

Well before I had a noticeable sexual orientation, I liked the idea of falling in love with a guy someday. Any show or movie I watched, involved heterosexuals. And then later I became noticeably attracted to guys.

I went through a phase where I thought I might be somewhat asexual, because a lot of aspects of sex grossed me out conceptually. And I went through a realization in my late teens that I also find women to be attractive to a limited extent, though not enough to personally consider myself bi other than a little bit of experimentation.

That's me too. I find men generally too revolting. Not all, just generally. All the staffs I've ever been on, my best friends were the women. I knew I was hetero at about age 13, noticing classmate's curves. Course back then I didn't know there was gay.

That is 5 statements on this thread alone that say they realized they were straight. It happens, whether you believe it or not.

 

[Nymphs]

People do not experiment with other sex's by default to realize if they are straight or not.

I'm not quite sure you understand what is being said here. Would you like an explanation?

the other small children around them accept them as is, but the adults do not and refuse to accept it as face value.

Quite ironic that you say this.

 

[Gehennaite]

People do not experiment with other sex's by default to realize if they are straight or not.

Actually, I think I had to. My sexuality was a product of nurturing, not nature. I was a late bloomer.

It took years of enduring through a feminine family environment (bisexual mother + three younger sisters), a number of heterosexual relationships, and some dabbling with pornography, to discover that biological women were simply not for me. I always felt apathetic and out-of-character with a woman.

I casually dipped out of heterosexuality at ~19. I still feel I am hetero-normative, as I am a masculine male interested exclusively in feminine males (TS/TV/TG/CD). They haven't invented a word for men like us yet. We're even less popular than gays & bis.

 

[Leftimies]

It took some time for me, but eventually I figured out the difference between attraction to cues and attraction to people, and that I was in fact hetero. Around the 20th year, but not fully until 21st year. I was confused for long time.

I guess there is remnants of bi/pan identity too, but not enough to define me as such anymore.

 

[Drolefille]

I do not exclude transgender people or put them in some separate category. Maybe that's why the bi/pan distinction isn't very critical to me.

The remaining difference would be the strictly genderqueer or androgynous people that fall into the pan category but not the bi category.

Those groups can totally fall into bi. Just some bi people specifically exclude them so some people use pan to be completely inclusive.

Actually, I think I had to. My sexuality was a product of nurturing, not nature. I was a late bloomer.

It took years of enduring through a feminine family environment (bisexual mother + three younger sisters), a number of heterosexual relationships, and some dabbling with pornography, to discover that biological women were simply not for me. I always felt apathetic and out-of-character with a woman.

I casually dipped out of heterosexuality at ~19. I still feel I am hetero-normative, as I am a masculine male interested exclusively in feminine males (TS/TV/TG/CD). They haven't invented a word for men like us yet. We're even less popular than gays & bis.

Trans women are women. And the fact that you don't consider yourself a "slave to women" or whatever you posted AND you just called them "male" means that you don't seem to understand that.

Transvestite/Cross dressing men are male. There's a different.

And the words for "men into trans" people are pretty negative. Because fetishizing trans women - see pornography Chicks with ____ - is incredibly common while not even respecting their identity as women.

As you've demonstrated here.

 

[StarryNightshade]

I voted "Queer", but that is thing in and of itself.

Unlike other accounts of people when they were children, I never had crushes. I never noticed the differences or preferred girls over boys, or vice versa. Even after I hit puberty, I still had no real interest in either sex.

It wasn't until high school when I noticed that I had more feelings for guys than girls. I guess I'm a later bloomer, eh?

By the way, on the Kinsey scale, I think I would be a 4.5. I prefer males, but I can see myself finding a woman at least romantically attractive.

 

[thiscloisteredconscience]

I don't remember realizing that I was bisexual in any specific moment. I was in my early teens when I began to act on it. I have only had sexual relations with the same sex on one occasion. I didn't particular enjoy certain aspects of this encounter, although I am still very attracted to the same sex. I'm not sure if that was just a lousy encounter (we were intoxicated) or if I am just more heterosexually oriented after all. I have been in a monogamous (minus a severe lapse in judgement) heterosexual relationship for over a decade now.