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There's been a lot of questions raised about why men are dropping out of society and not committing to marriage. I think the answer is clear. There's really no place for the average man nowadays.
The problem here is that while women are very active to get their own rights improved, they don't much care about men.
my equation for the attraction stakes is as such:
Men go for 100% looks in the woman
Woman go for 50% looks, and 50% wealth.
so both are fairly objective really.
agree?
I tend to look for psychological stability.
The OP is in no way suggesting that all or most women are suspect. Your motherhood is not in question.
It would be a shame if this thread discussed the subject in absolutes. I know my remarks are certainly not a criticism of all women, or even most women. In fact the radio interviewers who were a main object of my criticism were men.
Personally, I think the thread is an opportunity to have a look at a sacred cow (no pun intended). It is true that criticising feminism was a guaranteed way to be socially ostracised in the 70s and 80s, even if like myself you fundamentally supported the general aims of the movement. I was raised by a single mother when that was very unusual, so I learned early about some very negative sexist attitudes.
Whenever a movement or ideology is treated as being beyond criticism, it will result in abuses of that ideology. Sometimes I have challenged feminists ( I mean supporters of feminism, both male and female) to critique the movement and nominate any faults or failings whether general or individual, and so far I have generally been met with silence, or vaguely concealed contempt.
Common sense surely indicates that this is unrealistic.
The thread topic is actually about whethet or not we can acknowledge that any sexism or violence against men is real.
I had a discussion about this with a female social worker involved with domestic violence. She admitted to me that a very large percentage of cases were in her opinion triggered by female behaviour toward their men, including consistent acts of violence. She also admitted to me that there was no way she could publically acknowledge that and maintain her position.
The political correctness around this issue is pretty much an impenetrable wall.
Um, no it isn't. It's a form of bigotry, and you can be bigoted against anyone.Seriously, sexism is an institution for dominated people, so you can't be sexist against your dominators.
Technically you can, but it is of less consequence than discrimination coming from the class which holds power. We see this all the time in the "reverse discrimination" stories on the race issues. This is nothing more than a man-bites-dog story! Unless things have changed this afternoon, men are still larger and stronger on average than women, and still have the intimidation factor, which is becoming less and less socially acceptable these days. I can't even take seriously these oddball stories about men claiming that women are beating them up.Seriously, sexism is an institution for dominated people, so you can't be sexist against your dominators.
Seriously, sexism is an institution for dominated people, so you can't be sexist against your dominators.
And a sense of humor.
Compassion.
Courage.
And can do the Thriller zombie dance. :yes:
And a sense of humor.
Compassion.
Courage.
And can do the Thriller zombie dance. :yes:
This is just anecdotal, but I've heard more women talk sympathetically about men being trapped in gender roles than I've heard men talk about it. They are usually feminists, in my experience.
Besides, if you think men don't get a fair shake, then shouldn't you do something about it yourself, rather than wait for women to do something about it for you?
I had this very conversation with a friend a few days ago. The intense repulsion and misunderstanding of the word "feminism" is in stark contrast to ALL the self-defined feminists I know. This conversation prompted the feminist friend of mine (who actively supports fathers' rights) to say, "I find it so interesting how our beliefs about the world can be so different than our experience." (I've since quoted that.)Not me. The very word "feminism" often times elicits sneers and jeers, and specifically from men and women who are unaware of the many kinds of feminism, and who are unaware of the vast differences between First, Second, and Third Wave feminism. We have a lot of feminist thinkers and writers within ranks who are at odds with each other and who are quite vocal about it.
I agree, feminism is growing like aids. At least they aren't like men were though:
I've never been told by a woman to "get back in the garage!" "make me an engine!"
Worse, you have to pay for the first date.
I believe this forum serves the goal of more choice in gender roles, particularly trans-gender.
And thank you.I'd say that you handle it just fine.
And I thank all for not pointing out that I wrote "their" when I meant "they're".And thank you.
I don't think the problem is being against men or women rather it is about societies obsession with gender stereotypes. There is a very strict attitude in society about "the way things should be and how people need to act" based on who they are.