Wow. What in that post makes you think misogynistic ? My guess is that it was because I made the mistake of relating the story of my friend. As I also posted "I could give lots of other examples, but I am savvy enough to know that if I did so I would be characterised as a male chauvinist apologist with a litany of complaints." Bingo. Broke the rules. Labelled misogynist (indirectly, but clearly enough).
My experiences and how I interpret them are not supporting feminist politics therefore I am misogynist ? You sure played that card quick.
Feminism is not women. Let me repeat that,
feminism is not women, it is a general term for various views of a gender-political philosophy .
To interpret criticism of feminism as hatred of women is a deplorable kind of propaganda and male-witch hunting.
Regarding family law courts -
In my post I stated "At the time when this was significant to me, custody to the mother was routine almost entirely regardless of the situation." That time was the mid to late 70s.
And the point is absolutely true. I have pointed out at various times that I am from Australia, and I point this out in case there are differences between here and the US. It is generally acknowledged, and can be proved if one does the research, that what I said is correct. I do not know the current figures in Australia, but I am well aware that shared custody is now common.
My information regarding divorce rates is not something I had researched before tonight. I don't research every thought and detail when I post, unless I feel there is reason to doubt what I am saying. Like most people, I develop a view of the current state of affairs from a variety of media, concensus opinions and personal observations. I can get it wrong. So can experts, who constantly disagree.
So ...
I just asked a woman psychologist working in family therapy ( I am effectively a grandfather and today was involved in a family therapy session) whether she knew if my impression of increasing marriage breakdown was correct. She suggested that I may find the data via the Australian Institute of Family Studies. So I will do a little research and correct my view if I am wrong. I have found out some interesting and relevant stuff already.
Your statement that " Divorce rates having been dropping for decades and are lower now than they were in the 70s" is worth carefully unpacking.
Divorce rates peaked massively and suddenly in the mid 70s in Australia. The rate for the last 30 years has been more or less the same, but well above the rates prior to that spike,( in the 50s and 60s and early 70s ), and of course extremely above the rates before that - here is the graph from 1900-2008 from the Australian Institute of Family Studies -
http://www.aifs.gov.au/institute/info/charts/divorce/crudedivorcerate.jpg
I do not resile from my more general point about bad outcomes for children, regardless of "shared parenting" and the custody decisions based on who was the primary care-giver. That is about perceived justice for the parents and the best compromise for the children. Fine. But I have not met any kids who don't feel they were traumatised to some degree by marriage breakdown. (Why do you treat that term with derision ? I don't understand that). My grandchildren for example have shown major behaviour changes and distress since their parents separated almost two years ago.Their custody is shared almost 50-50.
And for the record, I don't hold their mother any more responsible for that separation than their father.
But their happiness and sense of security, safety and assured affection has been damaged. The attempt to refute this in the name of defending some form of gender politics is irresponsible IMO. I don't want to hang anyone for their personal errors of judgement, but I am not going to be part of a whitewash that says the kids are fine with divorce just so that the parents don't have to feel a bit of unease and maybe question their own behaviours, whatever their gender.
If you ask them how they feel they will tell you. Mummy and Daddy splitting up was very painful for them and has had a negative impact on them and their relationships. That is observable, as the family psychologist ( a feminist woman of about my age) agrees.
Regarding your last paragraph, where you celebrate the reduced suicide and abuse rates you claim society now enjoys -
This graph shows suicide rates in various countries from 1960-2007. In the USA the rate has been more or less the same (between about 10 and 13 per hundred thousand) the whole time, so your assertion that rates have dropped is incorrect-
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikiped...jpg/525px-Suicide-deaths-per-100000-trend.jpg
info from -
Suicide in the United States - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Deaths per day due to child abuse and neglect -
http://www.childhelp.org/page/-/child-deaths-per-day-line_9-30-2011.jpg
info from -
National Child Abuse Statistics | Childhelp
What was it you asked me - "Where are you getting your information?"
Where are you getting yours ?
Finally, this thread is titled "
When will we acknowledge sexism and violence against men is just as real?".
It is not titled "Post here and dare to criticise feminist dialectic - and be labelled a misogynist !"
And, by the way, the thread title does not suggest that such sexism and violence characterises women. Nor do I.
I will not be bluffed into feeling backfooted because someone has decided to insinuate something untrue about me, and use a contemporary term of demonisation.That proposition is made in
a blatant attempt to discredit someone who dared to suggest that a sociopolitical movement may have zealots within its ranks.
What a shocking suggestion.