I disagree. I think people can put themselves in the wrong situations. I think it's very realistic. Temptations are real. Being tempted is not wrong. Giving into it is. I prefer not to put myself into a situation where giving into it could happen, when possible. I also prefer not to give my husband a reason to doubt my faithfulness. Yes yes I know if our relationship is strong, he shouldn't. No marriage is strong all the time. That's unrealistic. Trust is HUGE in our marriage and I never want to do anything to cause that trust to waiver. Thankfully he feels the same way. I have been there and had that trust waiver and questioned my husband's faithfulness (thankfully it was all a misunderstanding, all his fault
) but I prefer to never put him through that or go through it myself again. That's not to say we can't have acquaintances or friends of the opposite sex
We just do not build deep intimate friendships with people of the opposite sex.
I agree wholeheartedly with this, PW.
My husband works all over the globe. He's a handsome, outgoing, and frankly charming man. He's gone for weeks at a time.
Meanwhile, I'm keeping the home fires burning. I'm also an outgoing, friendly person who for whatever reasons many men find attractive.
We determined a long time ago that we need to lay out some boundaries in order to safeguard our marriage.
We don't go out partying with our friends and co workers when we're alone.
We don't get involved with online chat.
We don't invite or allow a friend or coworker of the opposite sex into our home or hotel room when we are alone.
Our lives are an open book - each has full access to the other's email, Facebook, cell phone, websites, etc - not that we ever bother to check up on the other, but my point is, there are no secrets.
Porn has no place in our relationship.
When he's home and we have the opportunity to spend time together rather than be apart, that time together takes TOP PRIORITY. Every other social or work related demand is put aside.