Why are people on the internet highly sexual but people out in public aren't ?

[Estro Felino]

You don't know that. I'm a voluntary celibate who leans heavily towards the asexual end of the spectrum. I don't expect everyone to be like me, either. Not everyone is interested in sex.

I am not speaking of you or the likes of you.
I am speaking of those who pretend to be chaste and virgins, because in America that's synonymous with decency and respectability ....
whereas in the privacy of their own bedroom they do the kinkiest things, like engaging in wild kama sutra or something.

I think that psychologically those who have something to hide are those who feel guilty of something.

 

[Massimo2002]

Were you interested in sex when you were a prepubescent child? Do you remember how that was?

Ok you got me yes if I go back far enough there was a time when I didn't care about sex but what does this have to do with anything ? Do you remember before you were born ? What a stupid question.

 

[crossfire]

Ok you got me yes if I go back far enough there was a time when I didn't care about sex but what does this have to do with anything ? Do you remember before you were born ? What a stupid question.

Then you remember what it is like not being interested in sex.

 

[crossfire]

I am not speaking of you or the likes of you.
I am speaking of those who pretend to be chaste and virgins, because in America that's synonymous with decency and respectability ....
whereas in the privacy of their own bedroom they do the kinkiest things, like engaging in wild kama sutra or something.

I think that psychologically those who have something to hide are those who feel guilty of something.

How do you know that? Were you there, or did you ask them?

 

[Estro Felino]

How do you know that? Were you there, or did you ask them?

Having grown up in a small town, there were no secrets. About anyone's private life.

 

[crossfire]

Having grown up in a small town, there were no secrets. About anyone's private life.

Then there is no privacy, nor respect for privacy. I think I'm starting to understand the cultural differences here. Without privacy, can there be any true intimacy?

 

[Estro Felino]

Then there is no privacy, nor respect for privacy. I think I'm starting to understand the cultural differences here. Without privacy, can there be any true intimacy?

In my language we don't even a word for privacy. We borrow the English term privacy...

 

[crossfire]

In my language we don't even a word for privacy. We borrow the English term privacy...

It's starting to make sense.

 

[crossfire]

I think that psychologically those who have something to hide are those who feel guilty of something.

In my language we don't even a word for privacy. We borrow the English term privacy...

It's starting to make sense.

Privacy and intimacy are related to the sacredness of marriage. Sacred is something set aside from the public, aka separated from the profane. Therefore, privacy (being separated from the public) is necessary to preserve this sacred aspect of marriage.

Some cultures consider marriage to be a totally secular matter, other cultures see it as a totally sacred matter, and other cultures recognize both the sacred and the secular aspects of marriage.

 

[Eddi]

I don't understand how anyone can not find pleasure in sex it just baffles me as a nymphomaniac.

Finding pleasure in it and being interested in it are two very different things

 

[wellwisher]

I find this strange and yet no one talks or acknowledges this why ? Are people on the internet highly sexual but yet the people outside never do anything sexual or even talk about sex some women show off there *** and tits but that isn't even that sexual and god forbid you mention it the woman gets offended talk about hypocrisy.

This observation shows how sexuality is mostly fantasy and with the internet not always real, allowing more freedom for fantasy. Once you go into the real world and fantasy touches reality, it disappears. It may take external aids like alcohol, to get the fantasy ambiance within reality.

It is similar to designing something on paper, that looks cool. If you try to build it in reality, one has to deal with the hard knocks of the laws of science, which may need better function, and less dependence on just cool form. Anonymity is also common to the Internet, which is a way not to have to confront reality and/or can induce fantasy in others, so you can live your fantasy. The real world can peg you.

Internet fake news is like the pornography, in the sense, that it panders to self serving fantasy.

 

[Estro Felino]

Privacy and intimacy are related to the sacredness of marriage. Sacred is something set aside from the public, aka separated from the profane. Therefore, privacy (being separated from the public) is necessary to preserve this sacred aspect of marriage.

Some cultures consider marriage to be a totally secular matter, other cultures see it as a totally sacred matter, and other cultures recognize both the sacred and the secular aspects of marriage.

What shocks me about the United States is that people, especially in the Bible Belt, are not ashamed of saying that they own a gun and that they used it. But then, they are ashamed of saying they have sex, and how many times a week they have it.

I would be ashamed if I owned a gun. I would never be ashamed of saying I love sex, I love men and I always think of these two things.,

 

[JustGeorge]

What shocks me about the United States is that people, especially in the Bible Belt, are not ashamed of saying that they own a gun and that they used it. But then, they are ashamed of saying they have sex, and how many times a week they have it.

I would be ashamed if I owned a gun. I would never be ashamed of saying I love sex, I love men and I always think of these two things.,

Most people I know(most, not all) are fairly hush about having a gun. They're more likely to talk casually(not in detail) about sex.

I'm in the Midwest. Might differ for different regions.

 

[Estro Felino]

Most people I know(most, not all) are fairly hush about having a gun. They're more likely to talk casually(not in detail) about sex.

I'm in the Midwest. Might differ for different regions.

I don't remember who, but some celebrity who died said that people are afraid of saying that they make love, while they don't mind saying they killed people in war.

 

[JustGeorge]

I don't remember who, but some celebrity who died said that people are afraid of saying that they make love, while they don't mind saying they killed people in war.

I could see that attitude(and your previous comment about guns/sex)being prevalent in the South.

Regions really do have different cultures.

My husband is from the South, and he's never got over the culture shock of the Midwest.

 

[libre]

even talk about sex some women show off there *** and tits but that isn't even that sexual and god forbid you mention it

Yes, how people dress is not an invitation to converse about sex. Especially with a stranger.

 

[crossfire]

What shocks me about the United States is that people, especially in the Bible Belt, are not ashamed of saying that they own a gun and that they used it. But then, they are ashamed of saying they have sex, and how many times a week they have it.

I've never been to the South (or the Northeast, for that matter,) so I'm pretty ignorant of the habits of those regions.

 

[Massimo2002]

Yes, how people dress is not an invitation to converse about sex. Especially with a stranger.

Disagree.

 

[libre]

Disagree.

How do you reconcile your disagreement with your observation that 'god forbid you mention it' ?

 

[JustGeorge]

Yes, how people dress is not an invitation to converse about sex. Especially with a stranger.

When I was a teen, I used to wear handcuffs as a bracelet, and a chain leash for funsies.

I was completely innocent sexually... and had no idea that anyone would take it as anything sexual. I was(and still am) into the Goth look... they were fun accessories.

I was completely baffled when someone approached me and asked if I was into....

I agree, you can't look at someone at suppose they want to discuss sex with you.