Why are we allowed to suffer?

[Ethics Gradient]

I am asking this question if there really is an eternal blissful afterlife. I personally am agnostic and don't know if there is a God and an afterlife. But if there is an eternal blissful afterlife, then why aren't we all born up there where we can live forever happy and not have any suffering and misery in our lives?

Some people value suffering. But others do not and are completely miserable. They resort to suicide. There is no reason for such people to be here and suffer like that. There is everything wrong with suffering. I have struggled with depression and my life has lost all joy and meaning. You don't realize just how much my life has been taken away from me.

Some people would say that we are here to learn and grow and that suffering is for our personal learning and development. If this is so, then that is no God at all. That is no loving caring God at all. You don't realize the torment that others go through. Many have lost all joy and meaning in their lives and resort to suicide.

There is no reason for this. There is no reason for innocent people to suffer like this. They are not evil people out harming and tormenting others, so there is no need for them to be here and suffer. They should of been born in heaven (the eternal blissful afterlife) and just stayed there for all eternity where they can be forever happy and never have to be suicidal and miserable.

The only reason why I think we are here and suffer is because this universe came about through random chance and that what happens to us in life just simply happens and nothing more. That there is no grand reason for any of it.

From a Buddhist perspective suffering is an inevitable part of life in the sense that bad things will happen to you irrespective of how you choose to live your lift. You do however have a choice in how you react to negative experiences and can choose not to perpetuate the suffering. For example if someone cuts you up on the motorway that's annoying but you have a choice over whether or not you're going to whittle on about it in our head for the remainder of the journey. Generally it's described as the first arrow is unavoidable but the 2nd arrow ultimately originates from within yourself.

Another important part of suffering is that when bad things happen or you experience negative emotions or sensations it's important to develop a means of being with those feelings and sensations instead of trying to push them away. It's only through being willing to be present with negative feelings and sensations that you can be aware of the influence they have on your actions and more importantly not let them dictate your actions.