Indeed, you atheists have a lot to impart. We believers need to listen to your perspectives. It is unhealthy to be mired in our beliefs all the time and not look at what is outside of them.
I can certainly agree that belief systems can often cause bigotry and arrogance as well as divisiveness in general between neighbors on the same planet. This is against everything the Baha’i Faith teaches, which is that we are all one people, and that includes nonbelievers.
From what I have seen of believers, most of them enjoy life just as much as nonbelievers, so just having a belief has not precluded them living life to its fullest. They get married and have children, go to college and have careers, go on vacations, etc. Granted, some believers are more focused on God than others so they do sacrifice a lot of their time and what they want for themselves. I did not live that way till fairly recently, as religion was just something I “believed.” A true believer lives the life their religion teaches, they don’t just believe.I am now trying to be a true believer but that is a work in progress.
Some do and some don’t. The same applies to believers. I think it is a personality trait. I used to like to argue but I have changed over the years on forums. I really just want to have a fruitful discussion, not convince anyone of anything. I am also on forums to make friends, and I have some atheist friends on the other forums I post on who will always be near and dear to my heart, even though we do get into heated discussions at times.
I cannot speak for any other believers, only for myself. I do not need beliefs to have a sense of self-worth or to be moral or ethical. I always had a sense of right and wrong. I do not think becoming a Baha’i changed that except that I learned many new things that I have added to my list of right and wrong.
I do not think that religion is necessary in order to live a moral, ethical, practical or politically and socially involved life. People either have values or not, and live according to those values. One does not have to believe in God in order to have good values, a conscience and a sense of shame, which comes from knowing right from wrong. One does not have to fear God in order to live a decent life, caring about others and doing good works. One could argue that if atheists do good works for the sake of good rather than from fear that is more laudable than doing them out of fear or consequences or hope for a reward in heaven.
To me though, the bottom line is that if God exists and has a message, I want to know what that message is and follow it, because that is in my best interest and the best interest of others whom I effect in my life. The way I reason it out is thatGod is All-Knowing and All-Wise, so God knows what is best for me. I can never know as much as God about what is best for me because I am not All-Knowing or All-Wise.
I would also like to see more involved action among religious groups. The Baha’is are very concerned about social justice,a more even distribution of wealth, and the elimination of prejudice of all kinds. Whereas the primary message of Jesus was Love, the primary message of Baha’u’llah was justice. This is the Day of Justice.
2: O SON OF SPIRIT! The best beloved of all things in My sight is Justice; turn not away therefrom if thou desirest Me, and neglect it not that I may confide in thee. By its aid thou shalt see with thine own eyes and not through the eyes of others, and shalt know of thine own knowledge and not through the knowledge of thy neighbor. Ponder this in thy heart; how it behooveth thee to be. Verily justice is My gift to thee and the sign of My loving-kindness. Set it then before thine eyes. The Hidden Words of Bahá’u’lláh, pp. 3-4
From my experience on several forums talking to atheists for four years night and day, I can safely say that “some” atheists would like to believe in God if they could find “evidence” that proved to their satisfaction that God actually exists. However, I have not encountered any atheists who are going to lose any sleep over the lack of evidence.
I agree that it is a waste of time for believers to try to convince atheists of their religion or that God exists; conversely, it is a waste of time for atheists to try to convince believers that they are deluded or brainwashed, which is what most of them say to me. Believers have their heart in the right place because they believe that God is important, but it is not their place to try to convince anyone else. We all have free will so we are all responsible to make our own decisions. I do not understand why atheists spend an inordinate amount of time trying to de-convert believers because time is limited, since they do not believe in an afterlife. By contrast, for believers time is not as much of an issue since most of us believe this life is not the all there is.
When I first came to the forums over almost six years ago now, my primary goal was to edge my way back into the Baha’i Faith because I had nothing much to do with it for decades. I also wanted to make peace with God because I had either avoided God or been angry at God for decades. After being on a Baha’i forum for about six months I started branching off to some Christian forums to learn about Christianity and share the Baha’i beliefs. That did not pan out very well because Christians generally do not like Baha’is on their forums so about four years ago I started my own forum in the same forum group that is designed for people of all beliefs and nonbelievers, everyone.
My forum was pretty active for a while, until I got too busy on the atheist forum. Last December I had a “falling out” with the atheist forum owner so I left that forum and came here. I still post on another forum in that forum group, mostly to my atheist friends. They got tired of the micromanagement of the atheist forum owner so they left that forum voluntarily. Whenever they get tired of a forum in that group, they come to my forum which is for all believers and nonbelievers.
The goals I explained above has changes over the years. I still want to share the Baha’i Faith with anyone who is interested because I have been enjoined with that responsibility, but there are many other reasons I spend so much time on forums. One is that I like to learn about other religions and what others believe and disbelieve and why. Psychology is my other hat and one I wore a lot longer than my religion hat. Another reason for being on forums is for my own spiritual growth. I have grown more in the last six years than in my entire life, because as an introvert, I was not interacting with people much in person before I came to forums. By learning to not only tolerate but get along well with people who are very different from me in their personality and beliefs has greatly improved my character.
Learning is a never-ending process, there will always be more we can learn till the end of our lives, and afterwards, according to my beliefs.I have also learned to express myself in ways I never would have in a face to face relationship. Finally, and not the least important reason to spend so much time on forums, is that I have made so many friends. The fact that I do not meet them in person is of no consequence to me. I am probably closer to them than someone I would socialize with in a cocktail party type situation, because of the deep things we have shared over the years. Forums are so much different from Facebook.
No, I do not think you are either lazy or arrogant.There are only a numbered few atheists I would attach either of those labels to, and that is because they earned them, by saying that God is stupid and they could do a better job of communicating to humanity. That is the epitome of arrogance. I consider them lazy only because they would like to believe in God but only if God communicates to them directly, so they won’t have to do anything.
I hope you find a beach. I highly doubt I will ever see one. About eight years ago we bought a beach house but we have never had any time to use it, so we rented it out on a Lease. I am happy that at least someone is able to enjoy it. Our present tenant has been there over five years.