Why Can't People Accept Other Views?

[Captain Civic]

Some people have had bad experiences with religion, or have an agenda to push. In most cases, they're both.

 

[Sunstone]

Most people become emotionally and psychologically attached to their views. Changing their views causes them some temporary discomfort. They wish to avoid that discomfort, so they refuse to change their views.

 

[tomspug]

I've kind of gotten the impression that some people don't WANT to accept other view points.

Whoever said that "It's easy to get lost in one's own galaxy" was right.

If you think that people are wrong, you're going to have to make an effort to discuss people's doubts on an individual basis. No one is coming from your own perspective, so either personalize your opinions with your own experiences or learn about the lives of others and see how your opinions mesh with theirs.

 

[Somkid]

Most people become emotionally and psychologically attached to their views. Changing their views causes them some temporary discomfort. They wish to avoid that discomfort, so they refuse to change their views.

So, what you are suggesting is open mouth insert foot?

 

[Shell-Shocked]

I've found that theists have a harder time accepting other views than non-theists. I think it's because religion is so commonplace non-believers have always been surrounded by it, so it's not such a big deal. Theists, on the other hand, are usually raised withing religion, so anything going against that is all "Bwuh??"

 

[Vasilisa Jade]

My best friend from childhood called me last night and was just completely appalled and beside herself because a co-worker of hers at one point said he believed in Jesus, and at another point said he believed in the Big Bang theory. She just went off in my ear about how "you cannot!" I was as nice as I could possibly be, but needless to say, I am very disappointed in my best friend. The way that she responded to him, and her saying that "he's not the most intellegent..." just upset me. I hate how people have to change. She didn't used to be like that.

 

[kai]

accepting peoples views on things is one thing accepting those views as fact is another thing altogether, i can accept the view of someone that he is a satanist but i cant be expected to believe in Satan myself, do i politely move on the topic of conversation or do i start to question why he is a satanist and why he believes in Satan, religious criticism is kind of taboo isn't it , or it can make you feel very uneasy ,i have a friend who is a Pentecostal type Evangelist who makes me very uncomfortable and i used to argue with him all the time now i dont get into any arguments at all i just nod and try and change the subject ,which is hard because he can hardly say one sentence without god coming into is. the problem is because we no longer argue, i think he is a troubled person who is being dragged deeper and deeper into a cult like church and he thinks he has won and i have accepted his version of god and religion

 

[Vasilisa Jade]

i used to argue with him all the time

It is a natural reaction I guess. Intolerance breeds intolerance, just like anger breeds anger and so on.

now i dont get into any arguments at all i just nod and try and change the subject ,which is hard because he can hardly say one sentence without god coming into is. the problem is because we no longer argue

I do similar if someone is trying to shove their religion or views down my throat, or seems to "get off" by instigating arguments with me over it, just itchin to "get me" on something. I tend to end up being worse to them than they are being to me. Not feeding it seems to be best.

Answering the door with one of my snakes around my neck has politely done the trick before though. Tons and tons of people here still take the Bible literaly as saying that snakes are the devil.

*Praises for you maintaining the friendship*

 

[DarkSun]

It is a natural reaction I guess. Intolerance breeds intolerance, just like anger breeds anger and so on.


I do similar if someone is trying to shove their religion or views down my throat, or seems to "get off" by instigating arguments with me over it, just itchin to "get me" on something. I tend to end up being worse to them than they are being to me. Not feeding it seems to be best.

Answering the door with one of my snakes around my neck has politely done the trick before though. Tons and tons of people here still take the Bible literaly as saying that snakes are the devil.

*Praises for you maintaining the friendship*

I've heard a nunch of stories like that. One that I've heard recently was about a peer's uncle. Every time that an LDS, or Jehovas Witness member comes on a door knock appeal to his house, he pretends to be possessed.

Of course, it's both amusing and disturbing that someone could be bothered doing that, but I can understand why. He doesn't want to hear the other's point of view, because he has his own.

When someone tries to shove their view down another's throat, it doesn't usually end well when the other's view is conflicting.

I guess everyone believes, and no one's willing to go down without a fight.

I like the psychological answer as to why this is.

 

[DarkSun]

If you think that people are wrong, you're going to have to make an effort to discuss people's doubts on an individual basis. No one is coming from your own perspective, so either personalize your opinions with your own experiences or learn about the lives of others and see how your opinions mesh with theirs.

Why are you referring to me all the time? The way you've written that sounds very personal.

Have we met?

0.o"

 

[BruceDLimber]

>Why can't we accept other view?

Some of us can!

I quote the Baha'i scriptures:

"There can be no doubt whatever that the peoples of the world, of whatever race or religion, derive their inspiration from one heavenly Source, and are the subjects of one God. The difference between the ordinances under which they abide should be attributed to the varying requirements and exigencies of the age in which they were revealed. All of them, except a few which are the outcome of human perversity, were ordained of God, and are a reflection of His Will and Purpose. Arise and, armed with the power of faith, shatter to pieces the gods of your vain imaginings, the sowers of dissension amongst you. Cleave unto that which draweth you together and uniteth you."

-- (The Proclamation of Baha'u'llah, page 114)


Best,

Bruce

 

[crystalonyx]

Accepting other people's views does not mean unquestioning acceptance.

 

[gnomon]

Before I say much more, let me just say that I am not critisizing religion, but rather, the way in which some people follow it, without truly understanding other points of concepts.


A friend of mine, offered me the following site as a playful jab.

FSTDT Top 100

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Admittedly, this is taking advantage of a minority of people, but it's still depressing that the minority does exist in that fashion. Anyone with half a brain can see the gaping problems in the below statement.
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One of the most basic laws in the universe is the Second Law of Thermodynamics. This states that as time goes by, entropy in an environment will increase. Evolution argues differently against a law that is accepted EVERYWHERE BY EVERYONE. Evolution says that we started out simple, and over time became more complex. That just isn't possible: UNLESS there is a giant outside source of energy supplying the Earth with huge amounts of energy. If there were such a source, scientists would certainly know about it. [emphasis added]​

I agree that how faith can help... but actually understanding another person's point of view as well, even without agreeing, is possibly just as great. Especially if it helps you to understand WHAT you're talking about.

I have not read the entire thread and I don't care. I just wish to point out that the link you provided hardly coincides with the thread title.

There are still individuals in this world that people with white skin are protected from demons in Africa due to their own religious notions. Shall we say the same of them?

In other words, there are various reasons why we do not accept another's point of view. It may be on faith or reason. What is your position? Do you dismiss the provided example as an issue of what your own faith or lack thereof teaches you or have you actually understood the reasonable aspects behind such an opinion?

I can accept another person's view as that is their view but dismiss it all the same as an unfounded opinion. Other's find that offensive. I could care less and am more than willing to present myself as such.

as kai says here,

accepting peoples views on things is one thing accepting those views as fact is another thing altogether

 

[DarkSun]

I have not read the entire thread and I don't care. I just wish to point out that the link you provided hardly coincides with the thread title.

There are still individuals in this world that people with white skin are protected from demons in Africa due to their own religious notions. Shall we say the same of them?

In other words, there are various reasons why we do not accept another's point of view. It may be on faith or reason. What is your position? Do you dismiss the provided example as an issue of what your own faith or lack thereof teaches you or have you actually understood the reasonable aspects behind such an opinion?

I can accept another person's view as that is their view but dismiss it all the same as an unfounded opinion. Other's find that offensive. I could care less and am more than willing to present myself as such.

as kai says here,

While I am not Baha`i, I think my position can be summed up fairly succinctly by the quote from above:

"There can be no doubt whatever that the peoples of the world, of whatever race or religion, derive their inspiration from one heavenly Source, and are the subjects of one God. The difference between the ordinances under which they abide should be attributed to the varying requirements and exigencies of the age in which they were revealed. All of them, except a few which are the outcome of human perversity, were ordained of God, and are a reflection of His Will and Purpose. Arise and, armed with the power of faith, shatter to pieces the gods of your vain imaginings, the sowers of dissension amongst you. Cleave unto that which draweth you together and uniteth you."

-- (The Proclamation of Baha'u'llah, page 114)

http://www.religiousforums.com/forum/religious-debates/72927-there-god-there-god-8.html

Also, see that thread for more information. ^_^

 

[3.14]

Before I say much more, let me just say that I am not critisizing religion, but rather, the way in which some people follow it, without truly understanding other points of concepts.


A friend of mine, offered me the following site as a playful jab.

FSTDT Top 100

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aw man you shouldn't have offered the link i now have a hand shaped bruise on my forehead

 

[methylatedghosts]

Some people find it difficult to accept another's views, because they'd have to admit that their views could have a slight possibility of being right, which means that their own views could have a possibility of being wrong. And people are uncomfortable with being wrong.

Generally speaking, anyway

 

[Heneni]

Why SHOULD people accept others views?

If we all accepted others views we would be mentaly challenged.

There is a difference.

We can accept people without accepting their views. Be open to views, and sift through the stuff you hear. Keep what is good, and put in the OUT box what is not. But keep an open mind.


Heneni

 

[sojourner]

Jesus is quoted many times as saying, "You have heard it said...but I tell you..."
Jesus loved every one, but did not accept all points of view.

 

[UnTheist]

Why should I accept someone's views if I find them repugnant and stupid?

 

[3.14]

because acceptance does not mean you automaticly tolerate them