Why do attractive women exist ?

[Dan From Smithville]

I'll help.....

Perhaps I'm just obtuse. I see the women dancing and shaking in skimpy or tight outfits, but I don't really see Fred doing it.

Although, as a visually oriented male, I have to admit that I liked the visuals. But they didn't distract me from trying to understand. Failed apparently, but that is the my own ignorance and poor vision.

Is this a "what's good for the goose/gander" thing?

 

[Twilight Hue]

Perhaps I'm just obtuse. I see the women dancing and shaking in skimpy or tight outfits, but I don't really see Fred doing it.

Although, as a visually oriented male, I have to admit that I liked the visuals. But they didn't distract me from trying to understand. Failed apparently, but that is the my own ignorance and poor vision.

Is this a "what's good for the goose/gander" thing?

Nope. If I must tell you and I was hoping people would figure it out for themselves, its has everything to do with that thing called self confidence.

 

[Dan From Smithville]

I'll help.....

I had to go back to the post you were responding to and think I get your meaning and may have been on the right track with my last response using that old adage.

If a person wants something, they should take the initiative and work for it.

 

[Dan From Smithville]

Nope. If I must tell you and I was hoping people would figure it out for themselves, its has everything to do with that thing called self confidence.

I can see that (with a little thought and a few questions). Self-confidence, like anything, can be built on. But don't build too well and don't obsess on failure even with confidence.

 

[Dan From Smithville]

Nope. If I must tell you and I was hoping people would figure it out for themselves, its has everything to do with that thing called self confidence.

Did I get any warmer?

 

[We Never Know]

I'll help.....

Better song and sexier dancing IMO

 

[Twilight Hue]

Did I get any warmer?

Your on the right track.

 

[Dan From Smithville]

Your on the right track.

I'm glad I got back towards the track. Thanks for the enlightening conversation.

 

[Dan From Smithville]

Better song and sexier dancing IMO

I'm pretty sure he wasn't going for a battle of sexy dancer videos, but it does illustrate the fact of male visual orientation. And the sort of response it drives.

 

[JustGeorge]

I'm pretty sure he wasn't going for a battle of sexy dancer videos, but it does illustrate the fact of male visual orientation. And the sort of response it drives.

Females aren't immune.

As teens, a female friend and I would occasionally dismiss ourselves to go watch porn.

This would get the guys all excited. "You two actually watch porn?"

"Yeah, Silverchair videos."

They never knew quite how to respond.

 

[Pawpatrol]

I just tire of other people's expectations towards other people's clothing. Everyone oughta keep their eyes on their own paper.

If they can't, they oughta work on that.

If that's all men will be doing from now on, who's gonna put out the fires?

 

[JustGeorge]

If that's all men will be doing from now on, who's gonna put out the fires?

I trust most men can walk and chew gum.

I have confidence in them.

 

[Dan From Smithville]

Females aren't immune.

As teens, a female friend and I would occasionally dismiss ourselves to go watch porn.

This would get the guys all excited. "You two actually watch porn?"

"Yeah, Silverchair videos."

They never knew quite how to respond.

I know at that age I would have been interested in this. Don't know if I'd have a good response either at that time. Hindsight and all would probably be the bias to any current claim.

Silverchair? I know of the band, but am not familiar with their work. It is one of those that gets mentioned on occasion, but I haven't followed up with a closer look.

I take it, that porn, being difficult to define, you may be using a lighter meaning from what it is commonly used to reference?

But I think I see your overall meaning. Culture teaches us that girls are the quarry, submissive and uninterested in sex or sexuality of themselves. The reality is much different. Girls and women are interested as a group just as boys and men are. The costs of that interest differ though.

 

[Dan From Smithville]

I trust most men can walk and chew gum.

I have confidence in them.

Or we can learn and teach ourselves to.

 

[Pawpatrol]

Sometimes I kinda wanna wear one of those, when I don't feel like putting into effort into getting ready to go.

Some of us put in the effort when we're at home with our loved ones. Not so much for the bus drivers and the salesmen.

 

[Pawpatrol]

I trust most men can walk and chew gum.

I have confidence in them.

What about when they start chewing your gum?

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Use your own judgment but don't expect men to be undistructed if you dress like a prostitute.

Nit even dressing like a prostitute men have harassed me.
Here's a better solution. Instead of worrying about what I'm doing men can start worrying about what they're doing and control their own actions. It's not hard, it's just learning to ditch the mentality they are entitled to women.

 

[Evangelicalhumanist]

Nit even dressing like a prostitute men have harassed me.
Here's a better solution. Instead of worrying about what I'm doing men can start worrying about what they're doing and control their own actions. It's not hard, it's just learning to ditch the mentality they are entitled to women.

And that, I think, speaks rather directly to the OP.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

If that's all men will be doing from now on, who's gonna put out the fires?

Yeah, men aren't generally that stupid, useless or inept.

Some of us put in the effort when we're at home with our loved ones. Not so much for the bus drivers and the salesmen.

Shouldn't you're family be the most accepting and ok with who you are without the effort? Shouldn't they be the ones who would rather see the natural appearance of you?

 

[PureX]

This to me cannot be explained so I ponder this profound thought and emotion that I feel around women that are usually young and attractive are they simply a sex object for my male gaze ? Or a real life human being beyond the sexual lustful feelings ?

There is a lot going on, there. Your body has been programmed to notice certain physical features and to become excited by the sight of them. Studies have been done proving this. There are also pheromones at work, chemicals given off unknowingly and floating around in the air that are effecting you in a similar way. Also, you have likely been trained up as a child to see certain female characteristics as desirable, and so to desire them. And of course your own body is signaling to you that it is ready to spread it's seed, so to speak.

So there is a virtual storm of signals being sent to your brain encouraging lustful inclinations. And all of them completely 'normal' for a human animal.