Why do attractive women exist ?

[PureX]

No I'm asking if I can view them that way instead of as sexual objects.

That's up to you, but women are also sexual beings. And we would be foolish to try and ignore this.

 

[JustGeorge]

I know at that age I would have been interested in this. Don't know if I'd have a good response either at that time. Hindsight and all would probably be the bias to any current claim.

Silverchair? I know of the band, but am not familiar with their work. It is one of those that gets mentioned on occasion, but I haven't followed up with a closer look.

I take it, that porn, being difficult to define, you may be using a lighter meaning from what it is commonly used to reference?

But I think I see your overall meaning. Culture teaches us that girls are the quarry, submissive and uninterested in sex or sexuality of themselves. The reality is much different. Girls and women are interested as a group just as boys and men are. The costs of that interest differ though.

Silverchair was an Australian band, and most of us were in love with the lead singer because he was absolutely gorgeous.

I had a picture of him on my school binder. I was a Goth kid, and cringed when a strange 'normal' girl up and questioned me about it, expecting ridicule. I told her who he was and she smiled at me and said "he's really hot". I smiled back. We weren't so different after all.

What about when they start chewing your gum?

Well, as long as they don't take the piece out of my mouth...

 

[Pawpatrol]

Yeah, men aren't generally that stupid, useless or inept

I didn't say they are. But I do say, they're attracted to women. More so than women are attracted to men.

Shouldn't you're family be the most accepting and ok with who you are without the effort? Shouldn't they be the ones who would rather see the natural appearance of you?

I'm not sure.. I personally couldn't care less of the effort or no effort of most strangers so I guess I am very accepting of their lack of effort. If my family members stop putting effort into our family and its well being... Well I think we should do something about that.

Natural appearance? I'm sure my hair is just as natural whether brushed or not brushed but the society and its individuals have a high preference for it being brushed.

I'm not one of those "love me as I am or else.." women because that's just not how the world works, or how marriage works for that matter.

There is no such thing as unconditional love. And love isn't enough anyway. No one's marriage is held up by "love" and their "unconditional acceptance" of each other. That kind of nonsense in the media is just what makes people act so stupidly in marriages and therefore tends to lead to divorces.

 

[Pawpatrol]

Nit even dressing like a prostitute men have harassed me.
Here's a better solution. Instead of worrying about what I'm doing men can start worrying about what they're doing and control their own actions. It's not hard, it's just learning to ditch the mentality they are entitled to women.

They'll never do that.

What are you going to do about it?

 

[The Hammer]

There is no such this as unconditional love.

There isn't? I was unaware.

 

[Pawpatrol]

There isn't? I was unaware.

No. Friendships are ended, marriages broken, children and parents disowned.. what makes you think there is?

 

[The Hammer]

No. Friendships are ended, marriages broken, children and parents disowned.. what makes you think there is?

Experience of it. From both Gods and mortal Human alike.

I'm sorry you have not experienced it. But I do wish that you get to experience it's joys.

 

[Pawpatrol]

Experience of it. From both Gods and mortal Human alike.

I'm sorry you have not experienced it. But I do wish that you get to experience it's joys.

If you feel someone is loving you unconditionally or they tell you so, all that means is that at that moment you are fulfilling all the required conditions.

 

[The Hammer]

If you feel someone is loving you unconditionally or they tell you so, all that means is that at that moment you are fulfilling all the required conditions.

Again. I am sorry you feel that way, but that has not been my experience in almost 40 years. I doubt it will change for my last 30.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

There is no such thing as unconditional love.

Yes. There is.

No one's marriage is held up by "love" and their "unconditional acceptance" of each other.

And I thought I was cynical and pessimist about marriages lasting. But I just remind myself I've known examples of marriages that last and are upheld by love and acceptance.

They'll never do that.

Many already do. They enjoy their thoughts but keep those, and their hands, to themselves. Really, we all do that with various things. Such as how I keep my egregiously violent thoughts to myself.

No. Friendships are ended, marriages broken, children and parents disowned.. what makes you think there is?

I've been through the limits being tested, stretched, horrible anguish and in the end love wins out.

If you feel someone is loving you unconditionally or they tell you so, all that means is that at that moment you are fulfilling all the required conditions.

No, it means we have eachother's backs, thick and thin, and there will be a hand to help us up and a shoulder to cry on. We acknowledge people fall, have short comings and when things get hard we don't take off running but help bear the burden without thought or question. It means being there and sharing in each other's joy and heartache. It happens. It exists. I'm not making things up, I'm not dreaming or being naive, I probably would have been dead a long time ago if I didn't have the love and support of friends and some family. Don't know who you run with, but those I run with are even known for taking a charge to protect a friend.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Silverchair was an Australian band,

I did not know this.

 

[Dan From Smithville]

Silverchair was an Australian band, and most of us were in love with the lead singer because he was absolutely gorgeous.

I had a picture of him on my school binder. I was a Goth kid, and cringed when a strange 'normal' girl up and questioned me about it, expecting ridicule. I told her who he was and she smiled at me and said "he's really hot". I smiled back. We weren't so different after all.

Well, as long as they don't take the piece out of my mouth...

It is one of those bands, I've put on my list to listen to, but haven't gotten around to yet.

Goth sort of came after my high school days. Well, let me just say that such things took longer to reach the rural parts of the country than the cities. I listened to bands like Siouxsie and the Banshees and the Cure, I just didn't know they were part of a sub-genre called Goth. The same for movies like Beetlejuice. I just thought the were a cool style and different.