I hate spitting venom. It takes a very, very high level of evil for me to do that.
I'm very confused by your seemingly contradictory answers. Are you saying that this matter doesn't rise to that level? It seemed that you thought so when I responded to you. Now you're talking about how much you hate righteous indignation. OK, then don't express it. And if you feel like I do that it is appropriate and even a duty, then do so even if it's unpleasant.
How about we just drop this? I don't think you will give me an answer less ambiguous than you have been. Whatever it is you believe and however you actually feel, and whether that agrees with my beliefs and feelings isn't something I care to pursue if I have to ask questions repeatedly to get a clarification of what you are trying to say. I'm content to express my views - and quite clearly and unambiguously I believe - which I have done.
The only thing I disliked about the ad was that the women were portrayed as being somewhat happy about "deceiving" their husbands. Not that they shouldn't be, but it weakened the message somewhat.
I liked that. I understood that to mean that those women were unhappy with their men trying to dominate and control them and were happy to escape that at least just that once. They're unhappy being treated like children, but don't have any other recourse except to submit, fight, or or do what they want anyway secretly.
Remember, many if not most of these women got married as girls or very insecure young women who were initially happy to submit to these men because they thought that that was the path to a happy marriage and being a good wife.
But as the decades passed and they became more confident, more interested in things that never mattered before, and less interested in being told how to live and think, their attitudes toward their husband's domination of them hardened.
But what are they going to do about that if the relationship is otherwise satisfactory? Some will be confrontational and defiant like Thelma and Louise, many of whom will be battered, but more will try to live their lives as they prefer within the confines of the marriage, and if that involves keeping secrets, that's the man's fault. If he would love and promote her well-being rather than trying to maintain control over her, that wouldn't be necessary.
When somebody asks you a question like, "Who did you vote for?" in order to decide if he approves, her options are to tell the truth, lie, or refuse to answer. These were the choices Bill Clinton faced when asked inappropriate questions about his sex life. If his choices are to confess to an affair that he doesn't want made public and which would hurt his marriage and political career, take the fifth, or lie, he's justified in lying, because the first two are both understood as admissions of guilt. The question should never have been asked, but once it was, Clinton was justified in lying.
Likewise with these Handmaid's Tales marriages. If the man asks and she knows that she can expect a backlash telling the truth or refusing to answer, she's justified in saying whatever it is he wants to hear.
my opinion is a husband and wife should not keep secrets and should be able to talk about who they voted for.
And if they can't because he's overbearing and demands submission? If he wants her to tell him the truth, he has to make that possible without incurring his wrath.
To be fair it also says this: Eph 5:25 which you left off, Husbands, love your wives
But we understand what love means in this context, and it's not what I mean. My love for my wife is empowering to her and builds her confidence, which had been shaken before she and I met by one of these guys who thinks that he should control a woman, which involved asserting himself and demeaning and gaslighting her.
Life for her since has been what it always should have been and what his and mine have always been. She's an equal in our marriage. Neither of us has the power of veto over the other, and we don't tell one another what to do. She's not my property and I'm not interested in controlling her life.
it is not logical thinking to say because someone approves of one law that affects women that they want to impose more laws on them.
It's perfectly reasonable to believe that a man who supports any law that subjugates women including his wife will approve of many more.
