Would you allow your child to marry and Atheist?

[Darkness]

I am a heathen, so of course I would let me children marry an Atheist.

 

[andys]

Well, last time I looked, a theist believes in a supernatural being, or entity, or father figure...oh whatever. And that's just for starters! Whew. If such a stereotype exists, it's maybe because that is what the word "theist" means. (You might want to look up "theist" next.) So far, you, yourself certainly fit my "stereotype", you "rogue pantheist" (ha ha).

 

[Storm]

Well, last time I looked, a theist believes in a supernatural being, or entity, or father figure...oh whatever. And that's just for starters! Whew. If such a stereotype exists, it's maybe because that is what the word "theist" means. (You might want to look up "theist" next.) So far, you, yourself certainly fit my "stereotype", you "rogue pantheist" (ha ha).

No, actually, I don't. But don't let that stop you proving my point.

 

[andys]

Darkness,
What about the other way around? Or am I too "intolerant"? (I promise I will be tolerant of your answer!)
-Andy

 

[andys]

Storm,
And your point is that my not wanting my kid (if I had one) to marry a theist, is a case of bigotry, right?

 

[Storm]

One of many displays in this thread, yes.

 

[andys]

So a Jew would be a bigot for not wishing to marry Hitler? Or an astronomer who would not marry an astrologer?
Thhese examples are not examples of bigotry. Bigotry involves intolerance (usually hatred or violent action) towards PEOPLE. As I have tried to make clear, I like most theists. Their views are THEIR problem. I just don;t want to share my life with one of them because I can't respect their (loony) beliefs. I'd feel like I was her baby sitter, not her husband.

 

[Storm]

No, what's an example of bigotry is your comparison of theism to belief in the tooth fairy, etc.. Just because someone disagrees with you, doesn't make them an idiot.

 

[Zephyr]

I am a heathen, so of course I would let me children marry an Atheist.

Dang it, I should have taken this answer.

 

[Katzpur]

Listen, I didn't want my daughter to marry the Mormon she picked, but I kept my mouth shut and figured it wouldn't last forever. It didn't. I've never had much luck telling either of my kids (age 29 and 27) what they could or couldn't do, and picking a spouse for either of them would be the last thing I'd ever try to do.

 

[fantome profane]

So a Jew would be a bigot for not wishing to marry Hitler?

Quit while you’re behind. or… When you are in a hole, stop digging.

 

[Nepenthe]

So a Jew would be a bigot for not wishing to marry Hitler? Or an astronomer who would not marry an astrologer?

What an odd comparison. How is marrying an individual, such as Hitler,an apt comparison to marrying a theist? A better analogy would be a communist marrying a fascist, of which I'd wholeheartedly agree such a marriage would likely be incompatible.

Their views are THEIR problem. I just don;t want to share my life with one of them because I can't respect their (loony) beliefs. I'd feel like I was her baby sitter, not her husband.

I can't imagine the opportunities I'd have lost to get laid in HS and college if I agreed with any of this... All those lost chances to potentially "share my life" with a partner.

 

[McBell]

Would you stop someone marrying anyone if they truly love each other,
I think religion should ecompass one faith, the faith of humanity the faith of love the faith of togetheness.. If not a couple love each they have a life of torment a life of hatred whether it be a male or a female. Love is a natural feeling not one forced upon us by religion or creed it is a feeling of joy between two people.

Believe it or not there are people who would do just that.
In fact, there are people who would make into law that two people who are not related in any way and who they know absolutely nothing about on a personal level cannot get married.

Prop 8 is a prime example.

 

[monta]

Believe it or not there are people who would do just that.
In fact, there are people who would make into law that two people who are not related in any way and who they know absolutely nothing about on a personal level cannot get married.

Prop 8 is a prime example.

Reminds me of this that someone (Nepenthe) posted a couple of days ago

YouTube - Sinead's Hand

 

[Jayhawker Soule]

It seems like a very strange question ...

 

[andys]

FP: Try to argue your point, not bash your opponent. It is a sign that you are lazy and lack intelligence. (See? That's bashing and it's so easy.) Now let's turn to someone who is willing to play the game...

Nepenthe replies: "What an odd comparison. How is marrying an individual, such as Hitler, an apt comparison to marrying a theist? A better analogy would be a communist marrying a fascist, of which I'd wholeheartedly agree such a marriage would likely be incompatible".

I fail to see how a Jew marrying Hitler is any different in terms of incongruous ideologies than a communist marrying a fascist. In both cases, either party holds dearly to an opposing set of beliefs or ideologies. But if it makes you happy, I'll use your analogy. Either way, A theist marrying an atheist involves a mismatch of very incompatible (contradictory) beliefs. And, as I still maintain, this does NOT bode well for the longevity of their marriage.

 

[andys]

Mestemia!!!!
Right on! What an excellent point! I am humbled.

 

[Jayhawker Soule]

..., A theist marrying an atheist involves a mismatch of very incompatible (contradictory) beliefs.

And yet many if not most Atheists here seem tiresomely insistent that atheism is not a belief but, rather, the absence of one.

 

[Smoke]

Listen, I didn't want my daughter to marry the Mormon she picked, but I kept my mouth shut and figured it wouldn't last forever. It didn't. I've never had much luck telling either of my kids (age 29 and 27) what they could or couldn't do, and picking a spouse for either of them would be the last thing I'd ever try to do.

When my grandparents told my dad that they liked my mother and approved of the marriage, my dad said he was glad they liked her, because he intended to marry her whether they liked her or not.

However, my uncle backed off from a marriage my grandfather didn't approve of for racist reasons. One of my aunts, who wasn't too happy with the sister-in-law she did end up with, used to say, "I wish Daddy had let him marry that Korean girl." But I always figured that a man who couldn't stand up for his wife, even to his father, wouldn't be a very good husband.

 

[Smoke]

Either way, A theist marrying an atheist involves a mismatch of very incompatible (contradictory) beliefs. And, as I still maintain, this does NOT bode well for the longevity of their marriage.

I'm an atheist and my husband is a Christian and this is the longest relationship either of us has ever had. We disagree about religion, but we love and respect each other, and religious conformity is not a requirement in our household.