As a White man, I've only recently started to think about the subject of race (after watching the Boondocks). I've come to realise that that is a reflection of my white privallage that for me racism has been largely invisible in the course of my life and that I have believed that legal equality is the same as equal treatment. it isn't. Much to my surprise and disgust, I hold negative sterotypes of black people (black men especially) as violent and criminal without ever consciously being a racist. it's a hard thing to admit because you want to tell yourself you are not part of the problem and it jars with the idealised sense of self as being "just". But it is actually that sense of "justice" that is part of racism as it is the "white man's burden" to "right the wrongs" and make the world in his image. The notion of "white guilt" is a tricky one because it is unconscious, but the insecurity and sense of victimhood by white people comes from the sense that we are pure and unbellemished and without sin. all attacks upon us therefore are percieved to be unjustified, but really that is a form of narcassistic rage so long as we are unable to confront the realities of what the ruling class did and continue to identify with them on the basis of sharing a white, european identity. Whites have got alot of growing up to do as we are part of the problem, but we can also be part of the solution too.
I agree with you.
If I was approached in the same thoughtful, honest way the my response would be different. If able-bodied and able-minded people would just admit that yes, they have different opinions of disabled people, then my response would be much better.
I have shown in the past that I am open to an honest, open approach. I really am. But what often happens is they get in group think and don't answer for themselves. They already know a response to me and they don't have to think real hard about there response. Let me give you an example of what am spaking about,
No matter how you search on television, people with disabilities aren't on it. On the other hand, they put us on to "inspire" you. Now, it may seem to be a good thing to do. But what is the real reason were on ? Isn't it to make you feel better about yourselves, that you don't have to deal with that disability ? Isn't it so you can say "Whew! I got it hard, but I don't have it as hard as that poor devil mr. X does " ?
That is an example. I think most people with disabilities have gotten use to there disability. I know a blind guy. Guess what ? He's used to it.. He doesn't complain, just as I don't complain about many of my disabilities. Why ? Because I am used to it.
The thing we complain about is long term problems. An example is the lack of jobs. Or the fact that mentally ill people are put in prisons, not mental hospitals. It's the social aspect of it, not the fact of our disabilities. Were used to it. But that's the thing.
Try something for me. Instead of blocking what I am saying out, LISTEN. HEAR ME. Because the opposite does not create peace, which I am dedicated to, but creates misunderstanding, anger, mistrust, e.t.c . Listen to what I say and SEE if it's TRUE. Yes, you're not stupid, but I know a Hell of a lot more than you do because I have had to deal with this my whole life. You haven't. Then IF it is TRUE, what are you going to do about it ?
See, plenty of people said there going to do something about it. But plenty of people have done NOTHING about it. So I figure that it amounts to a couple solutions: 1) They will not do anything about it, 2) They can't do anything about it, 3) They are hoping we'll believe them and lay off them and 5) There trying to buy themselves time.
Anyways, this is the main thing
BE HONEST AND OPEN. I AM WITH YOU COME WHAT MAY. SO WHY NOT BE WITH ME ? THAT IS ALL I AM ASKING FOR.