I've been married 25 years and I have been on the receiving end of this anger.(we have worked it out now) but that entitlement and anger he had turned our sex life into a nightmare..he turned our "differences" into complete dysfunction with that attitude.
Me Myself you said it ..its a...
No one said the word "never".Its 'understandable" to have an expectation that in marriage you will have sex sometimes.You saying 'never" is a gross exaggeration of what we are talking about.The man is 'angry' if its been 36 hours.
Who's supposed to be the one to "throw down" in the bedroom if he does the dishes.Her or him....I have no idea..It explains though why whenever my husband does the dishes he suddenly has the urge to put on a pink shirt and I feel sudden desire to go hammer something .It doesn't end there. Later...
Exactly ...and females do not have bowel movements either.If he found out she did that he might be so confused and not even be able to get erection because only men do that.
I agree but especially his anger is directed at HER. That is misdirected anger."Appropriate" anger for me is when someone has done you dirty or wronged you and you feel angry at them because of it.Hes angry at HER for not GIVING HIM what he wants.The logical conclusion is that he feels entitled...
I'm talking about not caring that the person(in this case a woman) does not want sex at all.Wishing to not engage her body in sexual activity period.Not just not being aroused.
.Speaking of its easy (easier) for a guy to say its not a big deal for a woman to have sex without any arousal let...
I haven't seen a 'reported" case.But what he advised men to do that all women want is at the very least violent and the beginning of a rape. But the bigger point was you can have the MENTALITY of a rapist without ever actually 'literally" raping.
If I told my husband no ...and he turned me...
I tried it with a 130 lb dog. ;)
But you would be surprised speaking of claws (as sharp as thorns on a rose bush) how much damage can be done or what a struggle 5 minutes is with a cat.An 11 lb solid muscle acrobatic cat.At the vet even it took two people.
The fact that it seems sometimes he takes no for an answer (which then of course leads to a huge fight the next day) or he may "fight " her into consent.. does not mean he hasn't ever raped her or that he does not have that mentality.How many times does someone need to rape someone to be a rapist?
I think what is confusing here is if you "put it all together" he seems to have a rapist "mentality".Rather than his being 'upset" every time his desires aren't immediately met "makes him " a rapist.
It seems like the whole conversation or a lot of it is geared towards 'cutting Joe some...
I never said each sexual encounter "needs" to be "equally" pleasurable for both.I'm talking about having sex because if you don't..LATER (out side of bed)you will experience some negative consequences by that person.
Having said that though.For me I cant enjoy sex if my husband isn't...
You would know your CLAWS were gone when you woke up and for the rest of your life.You would know you can not climb..you would know you have no claws to defend your self.You would know if years later claws were growing under your skin and you were in agonizing pain every day.Or that you had...
Its not unreasonable. But if its under some sort of 'threat" or "fear" of 'or else" that is not a "good " sexual dynamic in my opinion. I certainly wouldn't hold it up as a great sex life let alone recommend others follow your example.For me that's not good sex.Its not in the spirit of giving...
If its anywhere near how i have seen him display his anger on that show?Yelling and cursing at the top of his lungs..throwing over tables ..punching things..???Its pretty intimidating.He also gets in physical fights with his relatives.I've seen him get up in his sisters face and threaten...
I agree.If someone is so tightly wound over two days of no sex they need to learn some coping skills.What did he do when she was recovering from child birth?Go on a killing spree?
O.K well me clarify..I certainly don't think merely feeling stressed having less sex than you want makes you a rapist.
I do however think having a fit or acting hostile towards the person and one example was him throwing a high chair across the room because you are 'stressed" is...
Well that's reasonable.But that is not what they are advocating in marriage.That's called compromise and it doesn't seem that's expected of Joe.Only Melissa .She wrote how if she is really not in the mood she does it anyway.If she said its a 'hard no" (sounds like its the exception) she...
Again I don't think anyone hear said getting angry or stressed from lack of sex makes you a rapist.
The part about when she says no he turns her around and rips her clothes off..as well as a statement he made later on a talk show that sometimes she tries to "fight it but he always wins" sound...