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Oh my that’s so tragic and cute at the same time ;-;cichlids(a type of fish) will pick a mate, stay with the mate, and tend to die shortly after the mate does.
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Oh my that’s so tragic and cute at the same time ;-;cichlids(a type of fish) will pick a mate, stay with the mate, and tend to die shortly after the mate does.
The continual removal of the cultural influence that has affected me is a very jarring experience. 10/10 don’t recommendits hard to remove cultural influence from a person.
Well, depends. If the relationship was open, or she had his consent... go for it!Allow me to elaborate by presenting a scenario.
A wife loves her husband more than anything and anyone. The wife cheats on the husband.
See how it is nuanced? The wife cheating does not mean that the love is not true.
I agree. Though, when I kept cichlids, I'd always be bummed when one was dead because I knew a second would follow.Oh my that’s so tragic and cute at the same time ;-;
I've worked hard to free myself of it, but I've been doing it since I was a kid. I recommend it.The continual removal of the cultural influence that has affected me is a very jarring experience. 10/10 don’t recommend
Dishonesty is not the best policy, this is true.If it was behind his back, I wouldn't outright condemn her, I'd ask "what happened?" To be dishonest about it may not be a loving thing(I say may not, because I don't know the whole story).
I do think people jump to divorce too quickly.Dishonesty is not the best policy, this is true.
Asking “what happened” I believe is right. If the cheater actually loves her partner but sneaks around anyways, there is something missing in the relationship. The focus should be on addressing the issues and discovering them. The default angry action and straight to divorce is tragic I believe.
In some twisted way, in some warped perception, lying is the loving action. If the cheater knows that knowledge of the infidelity will emotionally wreck their partner and ruin the relationship, and the cheater really loves their partner but cannot help themselves cheating, it is no wonder they act irresponsibly, “selfishly”, and perhaps irrationally by hiding their infidelity. They are worried of losing the person they love.If it was behind his back, I wouldn't outright condemn her, I'd ask "what happened?" To be dishonest about it may not be a loving thing
Adultery is fine.
Monogamy shouldn’t be the norm.
I suppose my argument should be we should cut the adulterers some slack and try to understand why they are acting the way they are. I don’t think we should equate them to murderers or even bad people. They are struggling rather and some may have undiagnosed mental conditions, as such was the case with my wife.Both are wrong, honesty is the thing, in that anything agreed is OK
I think the best thing in that scenario is that the couple works this out for themselves somehow.In some twisted way, in some warped perception, lying is the loving action. If the cheater knows that knowledge of the infidelity will emotionally wreck their partner and ruin the relationship, and the cheater really loves their partner but cannot help themselves cheating, it is no wonder they act irresponsibly, “selfishly”, and perhaps irrationally by hiding their infidelity. They are worried of losing the person they love.
I agree, we shouldn't judge. It isn't our place, and it does little good.I suppose my argument should be we should cut the adulterers some slack and try to understand why they are acting the way they are. I don’t think we should equate them to murderers or even bad people. They are struggling rather and some may have undiagnosed mental conditions, as such was the case with my wife.
I also completely agree. I believe that through honest and acceptance, a couple can peacefully end a monogamous arrangement. However, it usually gets really really messy instead when the break up happens after the secrets are spilled. I believe this messiness is an unnecessary result of the demonization of adulterers. Because of the absolute negative connotation of cheating, people tend to hide it and things get messy.If the person can't stop cheating, and the partner can't handle knowing, perhaps the most loving thing to do is end the relationship and let both parties find mates they're better suited for.
I think it depends on the couple.I also completely agree. I believe that through honest and acceptance, a couple can peacefully end a monogamous arrangement. However, it usually gets really really messy instead when the break up happens after the secrets are spilled. I believe this messiness is an unnecessary result of the demonization of adulterers. Because of the absolute negative connotation of cheating, people tend to hide it and things get messy.
I have come to understand that there is a lot of nuance to infidelity.
People being hurt or offended by infidelity is a result of societal norms. The cheater is literally doing nothing to the “victim”.
What is the cheater doing that hurts the other person? Literally nothing. It is the other persons own attitudes that causes them pain.
I suppose my argument should be we should cut the adulterers some slack and try to understand why they are acting the way they are. I don’t think we should equate them to murderers or even bad people. They are struggling rather and some may have undiagnosed mental conditions, as such was the case with my wife.
When my now exwife “cheated” on me, I took it real personally. Therapist told me that it was a “me problem” and to simply get over it because the wifey actually and literally did nothing to me. She was missing an emotional need and was trying to fill it. And I’m mad? How unthoughtful and selfish.
I definitely would have never married her. I don’t entirely understand your question, but in my case, me and the wife were both young fresh out of high school. We both didnt have our emotions or actions under control. So, I don’t hold anything against her and vice versa.Tell me, had your ex been honest and told you her problems would you have acted in the same way?
He was a bit nutty. Since I’ve been in the mental health system, I’ve become painfully aware that the mental health people are people.I think I know that therapist. Please confirm if the following photo matches.
He was a bit nutty. Since I’ve been in the mental health system, I’ve become painfully aware that the mental health people are people.
I completely agree with my therapist. And his therapy was greatly beneficial to my mental health. So to answer your question, a great therapist would tell you what my therapist told me.A bit? Just like that therapist of yours? What kind of therapist would be saying that sort of thing to someone dealing with infidelity, even if they thought about it that way?