Ah. I see the problem.
James (Gloone too, but I was particularly responding to James), I recognize that you are a Christian. I'm sure it is a beautiful thing to be.
And I am a Jew. Also a beautiful thing to be.
And the thing that we are failing to communicate to each other (which I'll get to in a moment) is further exacerbated by the fact that you are under the assumption that Jesus is god, or son of God, or whatever, and therefore is exempt from any previous laws that would otherwise pertain to him.
I, who believe no such thing about the man, am operating under the assumption that Jesus was a Jewish man, nothing more or less.
Now that this established set of facts is out of the way, I can move on to what we are failing to communicate to each other.
You are of the mind that Jesus fulfilled the commandments. I am very much of the mind that he has not.
You are probably not only of the mind that Jesus fulfilled the commandments, but that by doing so, it releases all Jews from the necessity of fulfilling commandments beyond either the Ten Commandments, or the Two, Loving God and Loving Man.
I am very much of the mind (and I thought it was obvious from my participation in this thread, but I'll repeat it again just in case) that Jesus had a great deal of difficulty performing the commandments on the simplest level, never mind performing them so "perfectly" that everyone else's obligations were absolved therefrom.
I showed you, particularly in the Book of Mark, an example of Jesus behavior. If you think of Jesus only as a Jewish man who is as obligated to abide by Jewish law as all the Jews around him, you will see and understand that Jesus was very rude to his mother. The example you brought in John showed Jesus being even MORE rude to his mother. As such, this is a blatant demonstration of Jesus failing miserably to adhere to "honoring his mother."
The idea that Jesus had the need to fulfill his ministry, as per the "will of his Father" is interesting. However, regardless of whether Jesus was a teacher, a Rabbi, a judge, a Cohen, or something more impressive, he was still a Jewish man. And he was obligated to act as a Jewish man.
If you want to believe that he was more impressive, and not entirely human, that is your prerogative - I know, you are Christian.
However... Ministry or not, you cannot say that he fulfilled the commandments perfectly if these examples show precisely how Jesus failed to keep the commandment of honoring his mother. No matter how pressing his duty was, there was NO CALL for him to be rude to his mother, regardless of the fact that she deferred to him.
That is a Jewish response to reading an account of a Jewish man who was rude to his mother. Whatever else he was, or whatever excuses you choose to find for him, he was a man who was rude to his mother.