I agree with you here, which is why I take exception to others reproving those who have expectations for what love should be. When we are told that God loves us or is good, there is no warning that it's nothing like what he would consider love or goodness. If so, why should he want it?
I've been making this argument to you for years for unbelief in interventionist gods like the Abrahamic god. Do you recall the many mentions of
restricted choice, which say in essence that this god is indistinguishable from nonexistence, that whenever things might have been otherwise had there been a god, we still always see what we would expect in a godless universe. I see that as evidence that the god doesn't exist. I really don't understand what keeps you a believer if you see this god as unloving and indolent, and which belief brings you no peace or comfort.
And this is also something any unbeliever might write.
Is that parent tri-omni? If so, then that is not love. That's what a loving human parent has to settle for, but not a god with the power to do better. Who among us wouldn't prevent their children from making mistakes if we could program them to know what can only be learned through experience and making mistakes?
I consider that backwards. I prefer going from evidence to a conclusion drawn from it. You suggest going from faith-based premise and the confirmation bias that comes from that kind of thinking to looking at the evidence to try to make it conform to the faith-based belief. I eventually let my experience define God during my decade of Christianity during which I suspended disbelief - the closest I could come to belief. I thought that I needed to test out this religion like a pair of shoes. If it didn't fit at first, walk in them for a season to see if they began to fit - if the religion began to start making sense and gain evidentiary support. But eventually, evidence surfaced that answered that question, and I could no longer suspend disbelief, so I left religion.
She most definitely believes in her god and travails over that. She feels compelled to love it even though it seems unlovable and unloving to her. If she didn't believe, she might have found happiness long ago (my words, not hers, although she might agree). And why would she think you knew anything about love after reading that comment?
She deserves to be unloved if she's not a theist, and that makes you laugh? Lovely. RF is where I come to survey how religion affects thought and character.
Also, you aren't paying attention to what she's telling you. She doesn't consider being born a gift - what you offer as evidence of this god's love.
