I disagree with this, there are many happy relationships where there is no "head." Couples can sit down and have a conversation if they are stuck on a decision and come to a conclusion together sometimes they will end up going with the mans idea sometimes the woman's or compromise so both partners get a bit of what they want. I don't see what is so bad about that.
It isn't bad. Proponents of traditional gender roles tend to present theological assumptions as support for their argument or tend to present various authoritarian hierarchies as support.
What is glossed over are the many roundtable democratic associations and societies that operate without a clear head. The only argument against them from traditionalists are that such arrangements are messier and take longer, and therefore fall back on how complimentary gender roles are more efficient and take less time.
Doesn't matter if males feel overwhelmed with having all the responsibility rest on their shoulders or if females feel marginalized and disregarded for not having any decision-making power in these relationships. Efficiency, religious doctrine, and habit trumps all feelings in traditionalist relationships where one or both partners are unhappy with the arrangement.
So, yes, I disagree too that this is how all marriages should work throughout the entire length of the marriage. Regardless of circumstance, orientation, personality, or the state of health physically or mentally of one or both spouses.
My answer to the OP? I don't believe in a creator God. I feel very out of place when I attempt to adopt an anthropomorphized deity as an entity I revere or worship. Therefore, it logically follows that I don't see a legitimate gender assigned to an objectively existing deity. I think we as humans write the stories and wish to identify our unknown place in the Void. Many cultures in the past who have contributed to major religious writings by men in patriarchal cultures would very logically attribute a male gender to God, and especially when they de-humanize women and wonder whether or not women even have a soul.