How the electron interacts with its surroundings depends on the system its interacting with. There doesn't have to literally be an observer sitting there prodding it. Superpositions of states tend to be delicate because any interaction with another system can cause the one system to decohere.
In the end quantum field theory has everything as excitations of a field. There are fermioinic and bosonic fields, there is one for an electron, and any one electron is a mode of the field. My point is, it may not be too fruitful to attach deep mystery to the QM effect without looking at the further physical theories we have also. Or, looking at the actual formalism of QM itself-- the various formalisms! It may be another way of viewing it, say, through the path integral approach provides you with a deeper sense of the physical reality that is being attempted to explain. It isn't that QM doesn't have weirdness to it, but it will help I suspect to have a more sharply defined sense of the weirdness that interests you.