I actually don't believe in an afterlife, I just think its likely.
I give you credit for reading 10 pages, thats a lot of reading. If you had read all the posts you would have seen that I agree with you that the perspective you mention is a good one. I didn't include it in the OP because I wanted to stir the pot a bit
But Im not sure that anyone actually embraces this perspective fully. I think for some (most? maybe all?) of these people the weight of impending and permanent doom can and
does cause some degree of stress, at one time or another, or quite frequently. I do pity these people, because I think their faith in permanent death makes their life bleak in a way,
even if they do try to look at it from the perspective you mentioned.
The idea of permanent death certainly is hopeless. Theres no question about that. To conclude that this life is all we have leaves no room for hope.
Well like I said I do apologize for not reading the full 50 pages and any inaccuracies in my assumptions. First off I'd like to note that I don't think that the idea of "some degree of stress" related to a finite life is exclusive to those who don't believe in an afterlife. I think that this concept can and does haunt those that believe just as much as the "non-believers". The reasoning is that we simply don't know. The fact that there are an incredible amount of theories going around spurs this even more I believe. If we all accepted that this is all we get and didn't bother hypothesizing about alternate scenarios (not that I'm condoning this, just positing a theory) we would be much more comfortable with the idea overall. Now I don't think that this attitude means that someone with a view of no afterlife somehow stresses over this concept more than someone who believes in an afterlife simply because the thoughts are floating around. I feel just as one accepts that when they die there's more, we believe when we die there is no more. Does this have to cause suffering? Do you think most vegetarians have stress over the idea of never having meat again? The one's I have met don't, and I'd suggest that the ones who do probably are influenced heavily over the culture and acceptance of eating meat. So I think there's sort of a need for acceptance on both sides. If you believe in an afterlife then you have to accept that for the idea of "noafterlife" to not cause you stress, and I feel the same rings true for the opposite.
I am one who was raised in a Christian family and thus was taught very young that if I was a good little boy I'd get into heaven and otherwise...I'd go to H-E-Double Hockey Sticks (we were so afraid of this place we weren't allowed to even say the word "Hell"). Now looking back on my "previous life," I see that not only did the
view of an afterlife (at least through these terms) cause me a great deal of stress, but my difficulty with the comprehension of this view and the conflicting thought that, "There may be NO HEAVEN AT ALL!" always popping up in my head, caused a great deal more stress in my life than after I accepted that "This is all we get, so enjoy it."
As for the absence of hope, I must ask, "Why do we need hope in an afterlife?" I'm content with the thought that this is all I have. Is it bad for some stuff to be hopeless? I don't hope that there are unicorns out there...do you pity me for that (extreme example I know, but bare with me)? I think we choose where we want to place our hope. I hope that I can make the world, however minutely, a better place than it would be had I not been born. I hope that some day I will experience the joy of being a father. However, I don't hope that there's an afterlife, but if there is, I'll do my best to enjoy that, in whatever form it is.
I disagree with this. If it does turn out the there is an afterlife - lets say an infinite number of them - then that would simply be a fact of reality. The context of life would be changed. There would be nothing defeatist about it, because you would know that there is more life to come even after death. I don't see how this would cause a person to be giving up on the now. I don't see how it would make someone think this moment isn't good enough. Good enough for what? You would simply go on living, doing whatever it is you decide to do, and being comforted by the fact that the moment you are living in is but one step in an infinite journey.
I apologize for my assumptions. I was thinking more strictly the judeo-christian view of the afterlife. One where you leave here and go somewhere else for eternity. I acknowledge that other views of an afterlife, like the infinite lives view, may be more conducive to living in the now. However, from the judeo-christian view the afterlife seems more like an escape from this world. From the majority of the people that I've seen "saved" have been "saved" because they've hit a low in their life, have realized that they want to be in heaven, etc. These views seem more defeatist to me than the acceptance of no after-life. Like I said, I apologize for wrapping all views of an after-life in that, and I do know some Christians and Jews who are able to appreciate now. I just feel they're far and few between.
Depending on who you are, this knowledge may very well compel you to improve yourself. On the other hand, some people who think that this life is all we have may live a selfish life because they want to spend every dollar on themselves. In both cases, I think it depends on who we are and how we decide to live our lives. Someone who knows that there will be an afterlife may live a selfish life too, because they may look at life from the perspective of eternal life and say that it doesn't really matter what happens in a brief 80 years on earth. In any case, it comes down to the individual and who they are, how they think, what they want, regardless of whether or not they are living in the context of eternal life or just one life.
I feel we've found some common ground here :yes:. This is what I believe whole-heartedly. And while I'll note that I've
personally experienced more selfish after-life..ers (there's gotta be a word for that) than those that believe in no afterlife, I think that it is entirely based on how you come to terms with your view. Obviously in both concepts one has room to feel that this world is temporal so why bother, just as in both concepts there is good reason to want to do good for others and leave this world better than one found it. I just kind of wanted to explain that the view of no life after death doesn't have to be defeatist or worthy of your pity :no:
You talked about "the weight of impending and permanent doom can and
does cause some degree of stress." While I'll agree that it has caused stress in my life, it has caused EXPONENTIALLY less stress since I've come to accept that there is no afterlife. It allowed me to stop focusing on what's next and enjoy now. And yes when these thoughts arise, my viewpoint I discussed earlier comforts me. Honestly, I don't see the point in constantly thinking about whether there is an afterlife or not. Once you've gotten a solid feeling on what you think makes most sense...does it change anything? If it does then you've missed the point. I choose to live my life, enjoy it while I can, do what I can to make the lives of those around me better, and at the end of the day, if my time is here, I'll either enjoy the next life, or I won't
-Benhamine
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Ok that turned into a book very quickly...I apologize for the length