Equivalent only in that they're virtual and one isn't actually seated in a cockpit. Flight Simulator has never been my pace of video game, but I do know enough that it's not designed to train people to fly aircraft; certainly not military aircraft. I can't binge the game, roll up to the nearest airport, and claim to have flight experience because of a video game.
You're deflecting, and hard, from the issue at hand. Have you run out of rope? It's gone from video games causing violence to the exact nature of an FPS game, and now apparently because the military uses virtual training that's... somehow relevant? You're lost in the sauce, WNK. Time to reel it back in.