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Girls and boys and what are we doing wrong?

Stevicus

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They set the place on fire by putting
mattresses on extension cords.

That doesn't seem very bright. I've been to my share of party houses in college, but usually we could fix the damage the next day. Although there was the time our roommate's car burned up because his friend left a smoldering cigarette sandwiched in the backseat cushions. It took several hours, and they were sitting inside, when someone knocked on the door and said "Hey, your car is burning up."
 

InChrist

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What the heck does that mean? How does having half this kids in your family be kind and responsible, and the other half stay infantile, how exactly is that "balance?"
It means boys and girls raised in a stable family with a mother and father have more guidance and opportunity to be balanced; meaning to mature successfully, rather than stay infantile, especially boys.
 

IndigoChild5559

Loving God and my neighbor as myself.
It means boys and girls raised in a stable family with a mother and father have more guidance and opportunity to be balanced; meaning to mature successfully, rather than stay infantile, especially boys.
Is it acceptable to you that the boys were infantile and irresponsible?
 

Mock Turtle

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Reminds me of Lord Of The Flies

"kill the pig, cut her throat, spill the blood!"
Not sure if the film was based on a real incident, I think it was, but such did happen and it turned out a lot more peaceful than the film - so I wouldn't take the film as being true to life. And not the incident related in the article.
 
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sayak83

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I was reading about some scientific research. They took 10 girls and ten boys and put each group in a separate house without supervision for 5 days. Adults filmed the whole thing, and were there in case an emergency happened, but did not interfere with anything the kids did.

How the girls acted was enormously different from how the boys acted.

The first thing the boys did was trash the house and write all over the walls. Although they had taken a cooking course they did not cook or have meals together. They simply scrounged for easy snacks in the cupboards. They divided themselves into two antagonistic gangs. One boy was singled out for bullying.

The girls cooked, cleaned, and organized a fashion show for entertainment purposes. They did not divide into cliques. When a cat was found, they all wanted to take care of the cat.

So, folks... What the HECK are we doing wrong?


This study can be found on numerous sites: here are two


The primary problem with the experiment was that the boys were kept in a house....
I suspect the outcome would be quite different if they were asked to be in an outdoor camp.
 

Little Dragon

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It means boys and girls raised in a stable family with a mother and father have more guidance and opportunity to be balanced; meaning to mature successfully, rather than stay infantile, especially boys.
The most important thing a child can have, are two parents or carers, that support each other and their kids and that provide love and security.
The gender of the parents is hardly relevant. Certainly the number of parents is relevant, since two people can share the burdens of family provision and life in general. A single parent, has a heavier burden to shoulder.
 
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PureX

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Some biology, some sociology, and some individual character choices. And different degrees of each per individual.

There is no single cause, and no single solution. In such instances, the best we can do is regulate.
 

Little Dragon

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Boys in general may need special educational help. The nature of the hormonal fluctuations and biological changes that occur within and of course coupled with external forces like peer pressure bullying and youth pop culture (and the culture wars), do not help boys be better students.
 
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IndigoChild5559

Loving God and my neighbor as myself.
The primary problem with the experiment was that the boys were kept in a house....
I suspect the outcome would be quite different if they were asked to be in an outdoor camp.
Why would that be a factor? Do you not think boys have been brought up in houses?
 

sayak83

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Why would that be a factor? Do you not think boys have been brought up in houses?
Boys tend to spend more time outdoors than girls during leisure time. It is possible that part of it is social, but I think there is also overall biological variation at play here. I suspect (though this requires study) that boys feel more stressed indoors and more comfortable outdoors than girls... especially if they are within a group of similar age.
Context-Specific Outdoor Time and Physical Activity among School-Children Across Gender and Age: Using Accelerometers and GPS to Advance Methods
 
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