As I see it, torturing someone forever produces no good results. Torturing someone forever is the most evil thing imaginable. Nothing is worse than this. How do you reasonably justify torturing a being for all eternity? How do you reasonably justify the belief that a good god would do the most evil thing possible?
I agree with you. It is has nothing to do with who Jesus is. Did not Jesus tell the women at the well "go and sin no more"? Should he not of told her; your going to hell if you do not believe in me?
The wrath of God can only be discribed in the NT as the "wrath of the lamb". Have you ever seen a lamb get MAD?