Could you rephrase the question?Hmm. Thank you for that perspective. As long as I've known her I can see that. What would you do if you said the same as she without intent to hurt me?
Welcome to Religious Forums, a friendly forum to discuss all religions in a friendly surrounding.
Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:We hope to see you as a part of our community soon!
Could you rephrase the question?Hmm. Thank you for that perspective. As long as I've known her I can see that. What would you do if you said the same as she without intent to hurt me?
Could you rephrase the question?
Ohhh...Oh. If you were her, how would you phrase your disagreement gay-marriage? (Without the intent to hurt me)
Religions seemingly hold everyone else up to their standards so they should do so themselves. If not they are hypocrites. So good on those people.Some do. I know one Catholic caterer who will not 'do' a wedding if one of the parties is divorced. Seems to be the same thing to me.
I also know a kosher caterer who will only do Kosher Jewish weddings.
Seems the same thing to me, and I don't see a problem there.
.
What if the couple living in sin doesn't think they are sinning? If the Catholics want to claim that they are denying gay marriage services because of their religion and still provide services for people sinning according to their own religion, (which they themselves are all too happy to name and shame to the public all the time) then they are hypocrites. If they don't, then I have no beef with them.Depends on who is defining 'sin.'
After all, the gay couple getting married doesn't think they are sinning.
It's not about what THEY think. It's about what the caterer and photographer think. The Kosher caterer has no problem doing a wedding if one of the parties is divorced. The Catholic caterer wouldn't have a problem doing a wedding (at least, the one I know about ) for a couple that has been 'living in sin' for awhile. Indeed, he loves those....he thinks he's helping a couple get OUT of sin.
They're the ones claiming what exactly a sin is. I'm only going by what people of religion (in this case clearly specific sects of Christians since no one else of religious persuasion seem to be refusing to do their jobs) are saying publicly and what exactly they are referring to as a sin. It's a little hard not to know the "list of sins" by now.Since when do you get to define what someone else has to think of as 'sin?'
It's not about what YOU think is sinful. It's about what the caterer/photographer/whatever thinks is.
It's called 'freedom of religion.'
.
Since when did I say you shouldn't practice your religion? I said people of religion should hold themselves to the very standards they themselves preach. If anything, I'm saying people should follow their religion more.Doesn't matter whether my exercising my religion annoys you. It's my religion. It's my right.
..................I can't make you do things my way (in the case of gay weddings, not get married). What makes you think you have the right to make me do things your way (approve of and participate in the wedding?)
I don't care which weddings you attend or refuse. Which services you provide or approve. That's none of my business. But to be perfectly frank, Americans seem so litigious that it's the only country in the world where visitors have to literally buy protection from being sued if they travel there.Give it a rest. You all know by now that I would go to the wedding. I would bake the cake. I would photograph it. I would help celebrate it; I have no problems with it.
But I DO have a problem with being made to do so at the point of a lawsuit.
Was thinking about my former Catholic friend. We talked about relationships. Then, when I asked her if she would come to my wedding (if I had one). She said that was akin to murder.
I just thought this a contradiction.
Catholics have prison ministries. They help people be with Christ and so forth. They don't promote the crime but they are beyond that and doing gods work.
If she came to my wedding, it would be (to her) just going to a prison. But instead of helping and supporting the prisoners in christ, she turns me down who have not committed murder.
Christians, does that make sense?
If you are against homosexual marriage and have prison ministry, isn't that contradicting the nature of support and bringing people to Christ?
I will be blunt. I hope christians read this. Every bit.Religions seemingly hold everyone else up to their standards so they should do so themselves. If not they are hypocrites. So good on those people.
What if the couple living in sin doesn't think they are sinning? If the Catholics want to claim that they are denying gay marriage services because of their religion and still provide services for people sinning according to their own religion, (which they themselves are all too happy to name and shame to the public all the time) then they are hypocrites. If they don't, then I have no beef with them.
Kosher caterers don't seem to be in the headlines as those refusing services to the public though. So they are clearly either advertising themselves correctly or are much more professional.
They're the ones claiming what exactly a sin is. I'm only going by what people of religion (in this case clearly specific sects of Christians since no one else of religious persuasion seem to be refusing to do their jobs) are saying publicly and what exactly they are referring to as a sin. It's a little hard not to know the "list of sins" by now.
Besides I'm not the one throwing a tantrum when told to share my toys with members of the public. If wedding photographers wish to provide a public service and not clearly advertise they refuse sinners (or oddly enough ONLY gay couples, other sins they don't seem to worry about.) then I will call a spade a spade. Also it's quite unprofessional if you ask me but they can refuse whoever they please. However if they want to claim religion, then one should be consistent. List the number of sinning couples one refuses on religious grounds. You can't have it both ways. Either you refuse to "participate in sin by celebrating it" or you expose yourself as a hypocrite by singling out gay couples. Unless they are more concerned about their bottom line than setting an example?
Since when did I say you shouldn't practice your religion? I said people of religion should hold themselves to the very standards they themselves preach. If anything, I'm saying people should follow their religion more.
I don't care which weddings you attend or refuse. Which services you provide or approve. That's none of my business. But to be perfectly frank, Americans seem so litigious that it's the only country in the world where visitors have to literally buy protection from being sued if they travel there.
So don't blame me for it being a lawsuit.
Frankly, that should be obvious. The very act of attendance constitutes (at the very least) tacit support.How do you support someone's wedding by going to it?
It can be tough when principle and sentiment clash. But when they do the answer is always principle. This is why so many of the early Christians accepted martyrdom rather than burn even so much as a single grain of incense to Caesar's statute. It doesn't matter what the personal cost may be. It doesn't matter how many friends it may cost you. The principles of morality come first. And the Church's teaching is clear. All sexual acts outside the sacramental union of one man and one woman are always and everywhere intrinsically evil.If someone had a job promotion party and I disagrees with the company they work for both morally and personally, that has nothing to do with supporting my friend. Unless I can't keep a barrier on who I support just by my presence, I can tell my friend...hey, I will be uncomfortable with X but I will still support you, as a person.
Murder is the unjust taking of human life. And I don't think that many gay weddings involve the aforementioned. So we agree, such rhetoric is nonsensical.The only way I can my friend not doing this is she would have to compare my marriage (gay is Not a lifestyle. Marriage is) to murder. I wouldn't want to attend an event of someone elses murder.
Again though, this is not what I'm saying. I am saying that your friend is right in her refusal to attend, but not in her conflation of gay marriage with murder. Although it is in the name of enabling sexual sin that million of infants have been murdered in the womb.My question is, I don't understand how the two actions corelate. Sex vs murder. They are both sins but beyond that, I don't know.
There are more polite ways to go about things, certainly. But what you like or dislike is of no concern of mine. I am convinced that Catholicism is the truth and I will adhere to and defend that truth regardless of the cost, regardless of anyone's feelings.My friend was an example but wasn't my point. What she did insulted me and there are better ways to disagree with attending something she feels is wrong without comparing it to something like murder. I'd never follow a faith that makes people think like that. But that's me.
There are more polite ways to go about things, certainly. But what you like or dislike is no concern of mine.
Frankly, that should be obvious. The very act of attendance constitutes (at the very least) tacit support.
It can be tough when principle and sentiment clash. But when they do the answer is always principle. This is why so many of the early Christians accepted martyrdom, rather than burn even so much as a single grain of incense to Caesar's statute. It doesn't matter what the personal cost may be. It doesn't matter how many friends it may cost you. The principles of morality come first. And the Church's teaching is clear. All sexual acts outside the sacramental union of one man and one woman are always and everywhere intrinsically evil.
Murder is the unjust taking of human life. And I don't think that many gay weddings involve the aforementioned. So we agree, such rhetoric is nonsensical.
Nevertheless gay marriage is a solemnization of sexual sin. Which is anathema to Catholic principles. Christ calls us to repentance and to the rejection of sin, not to the celebration of it.
Again though, this is not what I'm saying. I am saying that you friend is right in her refusal to attend, but not in her conflation of gay marriage and murder. Although it is in the name of enabling sexual sin that million of infants have been murdered in the womb.
There are more polite ways to go about things, certainly.
But what you like or dislike is no concern of mine. I am convinced that Catholicism is the truth and I will adhere to and defend that truth regardless of the cost, regardless of anyone's feelings.
In retrospect, that particular point comes off as somewhat harsher in tone than what I had intended. I'm not offended. All I mean to say is that I am not going to be moved by augments of personal feelings.I was following you up until here. Im confused. You sound like you are taking offense over my opinion and experience. Ima go back and read it again; but, this view clouds your points.
It doesn't, but that's not what I am responding to. I'm responding to this:So, how does marriage relate to murder?
The answer is no. There is no contradiction. In fact, the question is a complete non sequitur.If you are against homosexual marriage and have prison ministry, isn't that contradicting the nature of support and bringing people to Christ?
It doesn't, but that's not what I am responding to. I'm responding to this:
The answer is no. There is no contradiction. In fact, the question is a complete non sequitur.
Those with same sex attractions should of course be treated with compassion and dignity. Nevertheless, same-sex attraction is not an exemption from the demands of the moral law. Their salvation (like everyone else's) is conditioned on the acceptance of the Gospel. Acceptance of the Gospel entails the rejection of sin, including sexual sin. Gay marriage is not the rejection of sin. It is the embrace of it. Thus no Catholic can legitimately attend any such ceremony. No matter what others (Catholic or not) may say, sin is sin.
Same sex attraction: someone who is physically, spiritually, and mentally attracted to another person of the same sex. (Opposite sex attraction is someone who is PSN attracted to someone of the opposite sex. Homosexuality and heterosexuality refers to attraction.
The bible speaks of actions
1. Do not lie with a woman as with a man
2. Don't have sex before marriage
These are actions.
Now I would respond to your other points, but they're now so all over the place that I'm not sure we're even having the same conversation.
I was a Catholic and have no issues with Catholics. I dislike christianity with a passion and that does not exclude my feelings
Feelings are important in both your and my interpetation of the world. Catholics can be wrong. Non Catholics.
Was thinking about my former Catholic friend. We talked about relationships. Then, when I asked her if she would come to my wedding (if I had one). She said that was akin to murder.
I just thought this a contradiction.
Catholics have prison ministries. They help people be with Christ and so forth. They don't promote the crime but they are beyond that and doing gods work.
If she came to my wedding, it would be (to her) just going to a prison. But instead of helping and supporting the prisoners in christ, she turns me down who have not committed murder.
Christians, does that make sense?
If you are against homosexual marriage and have prison ministry, isn't that contradicting the nature of support and bringing people to Christ?
These people make my blood boil. And they are such toxic people without even being aware of it. I have removed myself from most people that think like that.
yet she worships a guy who reqularly ate with thieves and whores.....go figure.
Come to think of it I think I asked this before.
A more specific question. Homosexuality is a sin. Murder is a sin. I understand that. Murder is taking a life. homosexuality is two people, regardless if they are straight or not, having same sex relations.
Does taking a life and having sex, as sins, have any relation to each other that god would see them in the same light as abuse and rape?
When you have sex with someone of your gender does it harm another person? Abuse them? Rape them?
I know the foundation is god-said-so; it beyond that. Do you know gods logic behind the two actions, or does it matter that two people who love each other commit murder?
I understand murder akin to child abuse but not sex.
I understand they are both sins, but my questions doesnt refer to that. Just the logic behind the sin in relation to another.
Things like that.
They work in the public sphere and have no legal reason to ban certain types of customers. Want to ban the guy trying to shoot up the place? Ok. Want to ban the guy for being a gay black guy, which harms absolutely no one? Not ok.Those who sue bakers and photographers, forcing them to provide services that are against their religions are doing precisely that.
I don't care. Don't have the job if you don't want to do the job. I'm also against healthcare professionals going against their license by refusing to care for certain patients. The photographer or baker needs to work for a church serving only church people if they want to do things even Jesus didn't tell them to do. The OT says to kill gays. Jesus says to be cool. They want to do neither and I don't think we should reward the religious for disobeying their own scriptures.Far more of one, actually, since the photographer really is being forced to accept/participate in something s/he finds to be very, very wrong.
Correct. If you choose to serve the public, though, you must serve the public. Jesus had to be guilt-tripped into helping non-Jews, but he still helped them.NOBODY IS ENTITLED to force someone else to support religious beliefs they do not share.
IMO she already stumbled. Jesus never told her not to go to a gay wedding. She could've done the generous thing. She chose not to.One could at least say that she "was your friend" and probably ate with you but for her it may be beyond her level of faith to be at your wedding and cause her to stumble in her faith.
Indeed. Growth is necessary. However, she can still be called out for being a jerk. We don't claim toddlers are angels when they're throwing tantrums because they haven't grown out of it.There are many things I do now that I didn't when I first gave my life to Christ. In some sense, it may have been necessary as a "baby Christian" but you grow and change.
Exactly. And since Christianity teaches everyone is a sinner, the photographer and baker have no customers.If those bakers and photographers all have screening processes to eliminate from their clientele divorcees, people who had sex before wedlock and people who are on their second marriage then I wholeheartedly agree with you. I mean if sin is sin, we can't just deny gay marriages such services. All sin should be treated equally, is that not what is constantly argued?
Then they are not truly offering public services. They are offering specific services. The others you mentioned were open to the public with general services and only reneged for certain types of people.I also know a kosher caterer who will only do Kosher Jewish weddings.
The bible says we can kill kids just for disobeying. Should the government put a stop to it?You know...that really odd bit in the first amendment, where government is forbidden to pass a law abridging our ability to exercise our religion?
No. Refusing to serve paying customers ruins businesses. Their money's green just like everyone else's.Lawsuits. Ruining businesses.
You have the religious right to disagree with gay marriage. You can't let it affect public professionalism. Who, if asking for bread, would be given a stone?That I should embrace gay marriage as just dandy?
Christians did lots of bad things to Mormons because although a Christian subset, Christianity doesn't claim them. Don't know why tens of thousands of denominations can be Christian but not this particular one.What do you mean by you are a Mormon? Are you christian? I assume so....
Many people are frighteningly dense about the concepts of consent and harm. How can they be anything else? The bible teaches them that rapists will be fine as long as they marry their victims but wearing two kinds of fabric is an abomination unto the Lord. The bible has REALLY bad priorities.3. My OP asks how marriage and murder relate.
Note who didn't offend him: "sinners" who were only that way because society said they were. He LOATHED those who felt themselves too good to be with "sinners", proving them to be the actual problem. He hung out with people with certain jobs and certain medical issues, none of which are conscious sins, yet society claimed they were filthy sinners who didn't deserve to be treated right.Christ didnt get offended over sinners. what's wrong?
We're not safe if he's married.Your whole post is like gay people are attacking you.
How can she sin and not all the men who slept with her?Go and sin no more....
They work in the public sphere and have no legal reason to ban certain types of customers. Want to ban the guy trying to shoot up the place? Ok. Want to ban the guy for being a gay black guy, which harms absolutely no one? Not ok.
I don't care. Don't have the job if you don't want to do the job. I'm also against healthcare professionals going against their license by refusing to care for certain patients. The photographer or baker needs to work for a church serving only church people if they want to do things even Jesus didn't tell them to do. The OT says to kill gays. Jesus says to be cool. They want to do neither and I don't think we should reward the religious for disobeying their own scriptures.
Correct. If you choose to serve the public, though, you must serve the public. Jesus had to be guilt-tripped into helping non-Jews, but he still helped them.
IMO she already stumbled. Jesus never told her not to go to a gay wedding. She could've done the generous thing. She chose not to.
Indeed. Growth is necessary. However, she can still be called out for being a jerk. We don't claim toddlers are angels when they're throwing tantrums because they haven't grown out of it.
Exactly. And since Christianity teaches everyone is a sinner, the photographer and baker have no customers.
Then they are not truly offering public services. They are offering specific services. The others you mentioned were open to the public with general services and only reneged for certain types of people.
All those people have to do is serve only their religion/denomination. Just stop pretending to be a public person. That's where they are hitting the legal speed bumps.
The bible says we can kill kids just for disobeying. Should the government put a stop to it?
No. Refusing to serve paying customers ruins businesses. Their money's green just like everyone else's.
You have the religious right to disagree with gay marriage. You can't let it affect public professionalism. Who, if asking for bread, would be given a stone?
Christians did lots of bad things to Mormons because although a Christian subset, Christianity doesn't claim them. Don't know why tens of thousands of denominations can be Christian but not this particular one.
Many people are frighteningly dense about the concepts of consent and harm. How can they be anything else? The bible teaches them that rapists will be fine as long as they marry their victims but wearing two kinds of fabric is an abomination unto the Lord. The bible has REALLY bad priorities.
People feel powerless to stop true evil, so they invent stupid evils they can more easily control.
Note who didn't offend him: "sinners" who were only that way because society said they were. He LOATHED those who felt themselves too good to be with "sinners", proving them to be the actual problem. He hung out with people with certain jobs and certain medical issues, none of which are conscious sins, yet society claimed they were filthy sinners who didn't deserve to be treated right.
He said he came to minister to the sick, not the well, but if that were the case, he'd hang out with the self-righteous, for they were the sickest of all. However, he hung out with "sinners" because society kept screwing them over and they needed a hug.
We're not safe if he's married.
He'll come stalking us at night
Set to sacrifice our children
To his monstrous appetite
He'll wreak havoc on our village
If we let him wander free
[GASTON]
So it's time to take some action, boys
It's time to follow me!
Through the mist, through the malls
Through the darkness and the shadows
Not into gays, but it's one exciting ride!
Say a prayer, then we're there
At the church abomination
And there's something truly terrible inside!
It's a gay!
He's got fangs, razor-sharp ones!
He's got shade, insults made for the feast
Hear him roar! See him foam!
But we're not coming home
'Til I'm in bed!
No, just head!
[GASTON, ENSEMBLE]
Never mind!
[ENSEMBLE]
Light your torch, mount your horse
[GASTON]
Screw your courage to the sticking place
[ENSEMBLE]
We're counting on Gaston to lead the way
[GASTON]
Call it war, call it threat
You can bet they all will follow
For in times like this, they'll do just as I say
[LEFOU]
There's a beast running wild, there's no question
But I fear the wrong monster's released
[ENSEMBLE]
Taïaut! Taïaut!
Grab your book! God will say,
Now y'all sashay away!
We don't like what we don't understand
In fact, it scares us
And this monster is mysterious at least
Bring your guns, bring your knives
Save your children and your wives
We'll save our village and our lives
From all the gays!
Hearts ablaze, banners high
We go marching into battle
Unafraid although the danger's just increased
Raise the flag, not of rainbows
'Cause Noah's rolling in his grave.
And fifty Christians all just know:
Let's fear the gays!
How can she sin and not all the men who slept with her?