as resume to what i understand here : gays are male but attractive to men INSTEAD of women !!!. this phenomen is increasing in the West , and classify as normal , inspite it's rare
The general line of thought is fairly correct, but there are a few corrections worth making:
1. There are male homosexuals and there are female homosexuals (lesbians). And there are also both male and female bisexuals.
In other words, both men and women can and do have attractions for men, women, or even both. Heterosexuality happens considerably more often than homosexuality or bisexuality (I think), but I don't think any of them is exactly rare. I have met a fair number of both without making a point of looking for them, after all.
2. While it is difficult to find reliable statistics, I sincerely believe that homosexuality and bisexuality are not becoming significantly more common. It wouldn't even surprise me to find out that they are happening less frequently after all.
The frequency of "coming out", which is to say, of open admitance of homosexuality and bisexuality, that however definitely seems to be rising, and quite a lot at that. Even more importantly, the frequency and quality of
acceptance is raising in a very promising, heartwarming way.
By this point I fully expect to see same sex marriages becoming an everyday occurrence, not really worth of specific coverage in the media, in at most ten years in the future. The likely social effects are frankly exciting. I look forward to that day.
The challenges ahead of us regarding homosexuality, bisexuality and trangenderism involve a bit of research on the causes and nature of those LGBT situations, of course.
But important as that research is, it is still of very minor significance when contrasted with the challenges of
acceptance, self-acceptance definitely included. For too long a time we have learned and taught our own people to dismiss, ridicule and despise all LGBT positions other than the "traditional" cisgendered, heterosexual, "standard" roles.
And that, I have no doubt now, was a very big shame inflicted on ourselves. It was attempting to protect our preconceptions and confortable expectations and social roles at the expense of the dignity, self-worth and not at all rarely of the actual desire to keep living of our LGBT brothers and sisters.
In a very real sense, their blood is on our hands. Even more often, their cruciating angst fails to kill them but makes them miserable. That has to stop, and as it turns out we do have the power to stop it. It does not even take much in the way of a price to pay, and odds are good that ultimately it is for our own good and convenience as well.
To put it bluntly, seeing LGBT people as fully entitled to respect and appreciation is of course good for them. But it may well turn out to be even better for us. It is certainly helpful in attaining less moral dilemmas and more fraternity and compassion. And what are we to lose in return? A source of jokes of dubious quality, some opportunities for self-gratification of a particularly unhealthy variety, some assurances that deep down we always knew to be lies and that we have little reason to miss.
Or to put it in yet another way, it is an exchange to the benefit of all parties involved. We give the LGBT the respect they so much deserve, and they give us back the opportunity to be that much more honorable, more ethical, more dignified people.
I'm not sure we even deserve that, come to think of it.
