Hmm, I just thought of something...
@Godobeyer , think about friendships you have.You don't order your friends around, you may ask for a favour and they have a choice to say yes or no. They don't obey you, they may say yes because they care about you and want to do something nice for you. They may say no because they're too busy or some other reason.
I feel my marriage is like that, we may ask to do something for the other person, my husband sometimes asks me to put on specific laundry, like his work clothes, and I'll do it because I care and it will help him. I might ask him to take out the garbage, and he will do it to help me. But I don't see this as demanding and obeying, it's asking and having a choice of saying yes or no. No one is above the other, we can refuse. We just don't most of the time, because we like helping each other.
Even though at the moment I do not work, my husband isn't above me. I do most of the house chores because I want to, not because I obey him... And he does some house chores too, he helped me clean this weekend, for example. And someday I want to work, so the house chores will be shared equally, it's fair.
When it comes to things like clothing, I dress like I want and he doesn't have a problem with it (he likes how I look), I'm probably not modest by your culture, but for here, I think I'm dressed normally... I think if a man was to stare at me and say rude things, my husband would think that man is a pig, he wouldn't think it's my fault, he would say it's the man's fault for not being able to control himself. I don't think it would be nice for women to behave that way either, if a "sexy" man passes by and women stare or say obscene things. All genders have to control impulses.
I don't go out alone but that's because I have a mental health problem, but when I get better and am able to go out, I will tell him where I am, so that he doesn't worry. If he goes somewhere without me, he tells me where he will be. But we often go to places together so this situation doesn't happen often. I don't go to clubs and bars, just because I don't like those places, and my husband feels the same way. But we trust each other, so I know nothing will happen if he goes to a Christmas dinner with work colleagues (mostly men but some are female). If I didn't trust him, I wouldn't have married him.
Now I hope you realise I'm not making assumptions about your culture, and in mine, there's a few men here might expect women to bear and raise children, do all the house chores and cook all by themselves while the husband works and doesn't help (I had an aunt with such a marriage, it was her choice). But my marriage isn't that way. It's more like a mixture of friendship, equal partnership and of course love. ^_^ That's how I prefer things to be, I'm not obedient nor rebellious. I'm equal to him and we both help each other out.