Do you know what the really frustrating thing is? I was told since grade school that I was able to change the government by voting for what I believed in. If I thought something was good I would vote for it and if I thought something was bad I would vote against it. In the end the majority of society would decide and everybody would live with it and if they didn't like it another opportunity would come around to change it. Fortunately I don't live in California and could not vote on this issue. But if I voted either way I would have voted according to my values and the way I wanted to shape America. Voting is inherently selfish. And here there are people disparaging people and their beliefs in God, prophets, and morality for exercising the most basic right given to us as Americans. You may agree with them and you may not.
How is it that you can call Mormons intolerant bigots but you somehow are not. Aren't you doing the same thing to them that you claim they do the same to you in telling them that they should not have voted for what they thought was best?
Morality, sexuality, civil rights, protection from vague fears, religion, whatever your reason for voting the way you did was just a personal reason.
So tell me (in the kindest way you can), why are you so upset about the way America works? Do you think that this was the end of the battle? Do you think that there won't be another proposition of a similar nature in the future? Just ask your Mormon friend if they think that they won the war with one fell swoop.
Proposition 8 was defeated. If you want to enact change, stop complaining and move on. There will be another chance for you.