Anybody who's ever paid close attention to my posts at RF open forums concerning sexuality very well might remember my contention that much of our cultural attitudes toward sex take - what I call - "male ejaculatory bias." There sometimes is a smug satisfaction when another writer shares my opinion on the matter.
OK, personal victory aside, here is an article that challenges the assumption that the only sex that "qualifies" as real sex is intercourse ending in male ejaculation.
From the link:
My thoughts are that the assumption comes from a sexual paradigm that emphasizes procreative sex as the ideal over sexual activities that bond through play, romance, or even recreation. That procreative sex where males are ultimately satisfied as the exclamation point of the experience, the "money shot", is the goal. Hence, my personal critique that our culture suffers from male ejaculatory bias.
Let's talk about this, shall we?
OK, personal victory aside, here is an article that challenges the assumption that the only sex that "qualifies" as real sex is intercourse ending in male ejaculation.
From the link:
Instead of being driven by biology, womens rate of orgasm relative to men is a function of social forces. For one, we often bifurcate the sexual experience in line with gender norms: men are sexual (they experience desire) and women are sexy (they inspire desire). The focus on mens internal wants and sensations also draws our attention to his satisfaction. Thus his orgasm, but not necessarily hers, becomes a critical part of what must happen for a sexual encounter to be successful and fulfilling. This is part of why intercourse a sexual act that is strongly correlated with orgasm for men is the only act that almost everyone agrees counts as real sex, whereas activities that are more likely to produce orgasm in women are considered optional foreplay.
My thoughts are that the assumption comes from a sexual paradigm that emphasizes procreative sex as the ideal over sexual activities that bond through play, romance, or even recreation. That procreative sex where males are ultimately satisfied as the exclamation point of the experience, the "money shot", is the goal. Hence, my personal critique that our culture suffers from male ejaculatory bias.
Let's talk about this, shall we?