I believe a lot of it comes from **** shaming.
Women tend to be more complicated than men with orgasms, so its vital they comunicate (verbally or otherwise) their sexual needs. If they feel ashamed to do this, then there is a problem and ere is going to be a wide gap.
Also maybe there is a component of fear of commitment from the part of e male on a one night stand? They might associate more foreplay kissing, tenderness, etc, to a more "romantic" approach that could confuse the woman into believing he may want more than a one nit stand? (i am completely guessing there
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I mean, I think most men go with the "if it aint broke, dont fix it" command and they will do what they feel to do in each sexual encounter and if the partner is not complaining and is compliant then most likely she is enjoying it? (Remember I didnt say all men here. I wouldnt feel myself in this category )
Also to some degree the mentality that if they are having sex they already "scored" so, no much attention on actually scoring some points with her, caude they think they "won" the game already.
I guess its more or less treating them how they treat themselves: men having sex= he is happy,like, HE IS HAVING SEX, DUH! So, they may assume the woman is just equally happy.
I also think being more visual in general tends to help us be more easily aroused. If we are with a woman we find sexy, its difficult that she would not make us enjoy with practically any contact with our penis.
I think a lot comes with "sex is the end of the game and its my prize and i am her prize" mentality instead of "game have just began! Lets score some points!" Mentality.
Then again, al of that is very theoretical for me. I ve had only one sex partner, we both like foreplay, and she loves missionary. What can I say?