War can and does often usher in a long period of peace and prosperity. Sometimes it's a necessary evil.
With all due respect, do you really believe in that?
War is great to making one feel empowered, and for providing "honorable" outs. But it is still a failure from its very conception. To claim that it is unavoidable is, to me, akin to saying that infidelity is a fact of life - it may be technically true, I guess, but we really shouldn't just accept it mindlessly.
With all due respect, yes I do.
You seem to be talking about the emotional effects of war - the emotions of empowerment, emotional justification for violence, feelings of failure, unacceptance of the inevitable nature of some humans.
I'm talking about taking up arms and resisting tyranny, defending one's home and family, taking a stand against what is wrong, protecting others from those who would destroy all they hold dear.
Wow, how can we even be talking about the same thing? And yet we are - because wars, on small and large scale, have complex and multilayered reasons, causes, and consequences.
But I'm glad you brought up the example of infidelity. Infidelity exists, right? I mean, it happens. Stating the obvious doesn't mean that we're accepting it mindlessly, or that we would tolerate it in our own relationships.
In fact, I think DENYING it's existance or possibility, being unprepared for it, ignoring situations which could increase the likelihood of infidelity in our own relationships, or turning our head when our partner is unfaithful - THAT is mindless acceptance, in my opinion.
We don't WANT infidelity in our relationships, but if our partner is unfaithful, we should take action, even if that action is difficult, unpleasant, expensive, and something we'd rather not do.
And - when we do take action to rid ourselves of infidelity in our lives, often our lives and the lives of our children are much improved. The unfaithful partner may not be so lucky, but frankly, that's not our focus.