They certainly clash with mine as well, but just like any religion, you have to separate religion from politics.
I just finished Benazir Bhutto's book, "Reconciliation" on audio, and she spoke of her dream of an Islamic democracy, in which both Islam and democracy can abide together in the same breath. I highly recommend her book, and she was one wonderfully progressive woman who held to her faith and loved her religious culture.
The present fundamentalist Shari'a law is actually anti-Qur'anic, but many Islamic countries claim that it somehow has to do with their religion. We have two Canadian associations that both see these things and more as cultural and have nothing to do with Islam proper: the Muslim Canadian Congress, and the Canadian Muslim Union.
I've even hung out with lesbian and gay Muslims in Vancouver.
Pretty amazing if you ask me!
People like Ismaili Muslims do much good in the name of religion. The Ismaili Muslims in our province once a year do a charity drive and walk for some cause, such as raising funds for cancer research, or the like. So to think that a religion can be depicted through some countries' laws is pretty narrow-minded.
It's like assuming that Canadian Christianity must be barbaric because of the practices done in the name of Christianity in Africa, for example. Or the anti-homosexual stances of the Unitarian Universalist congregations in Africa, versus its otherwise progressive stances elsewhere in the world.