Polgamy - what are your views?

[VenatorAnima]

Title says it all.

In the United States, there is a television show called "Sister Wives"
It is about a man who has four wives and 16 children between all the wives.
The first three wives live with the husband in a home that divided into separate
apartment type living quarters for each wife and her biological children.
(I said biological because all the wives claim all the children as their children)...
and since there was no more room in the home, the newest wife and her children
have a house that is just blocks away from the main home.

Do you think polygamous marriages can actually ever work???

 

[Storm]

In my experience, it doesn't work at all. In others', it works beautifully.

I'm left with the conclusion that it depends on the individuals and their compatibility.

 

[Tarheeler]

Do you think polygamous marriages can actually ever work???

They work everyday in various parts of the world.

I think Storm is right; it all depends on the people in the relationship.

I don't think I could pull it off; it takes all my time to trying to appease the one I have now.

 

[linwood]

Do you think polygamous marriages can actually ever work???

I`m sure they can work but personally I don`t have the patience, energy, or resources to even consider it.

It`s madness I tells ya..Madness!!

 

[Nerthus]

It definitely wouldn't work for me, I know that much.

 

[Penumbra]

Not for me.

 

[croak]

They can work, but I'd prefer a single mate. Nothing wrong with it; just not my thing.

 

[Smoke]

Title says it all.

In the United States, there is a television show called "Sister Wives"
It is about a man who has four wives and 16 children between all the wives.
The first three wives live with the husband in a home that divided into separate
apartment type living quarters for each wife and her biological children.
(I said biological because all the wives claim all the children as their children)...
and since there was no more room in the home, the newest wife and her children
have a house that is just blocks away from the main home.

Do you think polygamous marriages can actually ever work???

Three of the four sister wives on that show have lived together for 16 years. It seems to work.

Like just about everything else, polygamy's not for everybody, but it can work for some people.

 

[Smoke]

I liked it when the first three wives were talking about 4th wife, who is younger than the the first three:

3rd wife: He deserves a trophy wife. I'm glad he's found somebody cute.

2nd wife: I'm cute.​

 

[sunsplash]

Whatever floats your boat...it's none of my business.

No way would this lifestyle ever work for me though. I'm jealous and protective and wouldn't want to share my husband with someone else, and I expect it would bring up personal insecurities in myself as well. I see nothing wrong with open relationships when all parties involved are for it, but once marriage comes into play, I personally hold that to be between two people only. Marriage is more to me than a legal document and is based on a set of beliefs and values I hold important and share with my husband; others may completely disagree which is why I'd never condemn the practice as a whole or pass judgement on those who have no issue living that lifestyle. As long as it isn't imposed on me, I'll in return offer the same respect.

 

[VenatorAnima]

I liked it when the first three wives were talking about 4th wife, who is younger than the the first three:

3rd wife: He deserves a trophy wife. I'm glad he's found somebody cute.

2nd wife: I'm cute.
​

that did make me :biglaugh:

 

[Storm]

Whatever floats your boat...it's none of my business.

No way would this lifestyle ever work for me though. I'm jealous and protective and wouldn't want to share my husband with someone else, and I expect it would bring up personal insecurities in myself as well. I see nothing wrong with open relationships when all parties involved are for it, but once marriage comes into play, I personally hold that to be between two people only. Marriage is more to me than a legal document and is based on a set of beliefs and values I hold important and share with my husband; others may completely disagree which is why I'd never condemn the practice as a whole or pass judgement on those who have no issue living that lifestyle. As long as it isn't imposed on me, I'll in return offer the same respect.

What if another religion recognized poly unions? Would you treat them the same?

 

[Midnight Pete]

Title says it all.

In the United States, there is a television show called "Sister Wives"
It is about a man who has four wives and 16 children between all the wives.
The first three wives live with the husband in a home that divided into separate
apartment type living quarters for each wife and her biological children.
(I said biological because all the wives claim all the children as their children)...
and since there was no more room in the home, the newest wife and her children
have a house that is just blocks away from the main home.

Do you think polygamous marriages can actually ever work???

I think maybe they can work if it all takes place in a polygamy compound, sealed off from the outside world. The FLDS strongman Warren Jeffs had his own little mini-society going, which he utterly controlled. The men benefitted greatly in terms of sex and domination but the women & children really suffered. It's usually all about gratifying a man's sexual greed.

One wife is enough.

 

[sunsplash]

What if another religion recognized poly unions? Would you treat them the same?

I don't see what a recognition of their marriage has to do with how I would treat them. Their lifestyles and their choices don't have any affect on my lifestyle and choices that just happen to be different from theirs. They are human beings who are happy and love eachother and are deserving of respect regardless of a difference of opinion, religion, etc. While polygamy is not for me and I could never agree to be involved in that situation, my opinions don't apply to anyone else but myself in the grand scheme of things.

 

[Storm]

I don't see what a recognition of their marriage has to do with how I would treat them. Their lifestyles and their choices don't have any affect on my lifestyle and choices that just happen to be different from theirs. They are human beings who are happy and love eachother and are deserving of respect regardless of a difference of opinion, religion, etc. While polygamy is not for me and I could never agree to be involved in that situation, my opinions don't apply to anyone else but myself in the grand scheme of things.

Well, that's something at least. But if it were someone close to you, would you say "sorry, honey, but your wedding doesn't meet my standards?"

 

[sunsplash]

Well, that's something at least. But if it were someone close to you, would you say "sorry, honey, but your wedding doesn't meet my standards?"

What? Of course not. I'm baffled as to why you would even ask this. My standards again have nothing to do with anyone but myself. Because I could never be apart of that sort of family unit doesn't mean it's of any less value to those involved.

 

[Storm]

What? Of course not. I'm baffled as to why you would even ask this. My standards again have nothing to do with any but myself. Because I could never be apart of that sort of family unit doesn't mean it's of any less value to those involved.

Well cool then.

As for why I asked, you said something along the lines of not recognizing it. I was wondering what that meant, for you.

 

[Pegg]

Title says it all.

In the United States, there is a television show called "Sister Wives"

they call this show 'Big Love' in australia


I actually like the muslim mindset that polygamy is practiced so that widows are not left without someone to care for them and their children. In that sense i think its a noble arrangement

but in the case of this show the husband isnt marrying widows, so in my opinion he's just being greedy. Im also not sure how christians justify polygamy considering the NT is against it.

 

[Storm]

they call this show 'Big Love' in australia


I actually like the muslim mindset that polygamy is practiced so that widows are not left without someone to care for them and their children. In that sense i think its a noble arrangement

but in the case of this show the husband isnt marrying widows, so in my opinion he's just being greedy. Im also not sure how christians justify polygamy considering the NT is against it.

They're separate shows, and IMDB lists Sister Wives as "reality." Sister Wives.

 

[sunsplash]

Well cool then.

As for why I asked, you said something along the lines of not recognizing it. I was wondering what that meant, for you.

I didn't say I wouldn't recognize it - and if that was implied that isn't what I meant. I was speaking purely in terms of my lifestyle and how my beliefs and values that make up a marriage are incompatible with polygamy. For myself I could not be married to multiple partners or be one of many partners to a man because of holding monogomy and fidelity very dear (but I suppose the infidelity line is blurred in that situation since you can't cheat on your wife with a wife - honestly it makes my head hurt even trying to figure that out, lol).

Anyway - I was only speaking for myself. Legal document being moot, marriage for me was making a vow to be with only one man and if I wanted different, I'd have just kept dating. Marriage to someone else may mean different. That doesn't mean I have issues with anyone's relationship, just that we took two different paths to the same destination.