There are always people and, in fact, whole religions that seem put a lot of value in attempting to disregard the differences among religions.
Very often it is presented as an act of good faith, and often enough it is. It is always wise and prudent to remind ourselves that differences of belief are not to be overdone and should not be taken as reason for bitter rejection of other people.
Still, it is definitely possible and harmful to overdo it. We run the risk of attempting to tell people what their beliefs "really are", and that of course is not anyone else's call to make. It amounts to deciding that other people are holding wrong beliefs and should submit to our own judgement on the matter.
Even were that true - and even from a statistical perspective it just can't be true very often at all - the fact remains that it is invasive and disrespectful to reinterpret other people's beliefs without somehow being invited to.
Of course, talking about differences of belief and attempting to convince others of how they should be interpreted is a whole lot better than not even caring enough to do that. Disregard for others' beliefs very often manifests in both overt hostility and silent despisal, and that is no better than the reinterpretation.
But a mistake is still a mistake, and misjudging whole religious communities is not something to be taken too lightly.
I have come to wonder if the existence of so many mismatched beliefs is not in and of itself a source of significant distress for some people.
That would not be absurd. There are significant challenges in attempting to respect and establish healthy understandings with people if we can't even agree on what is worth pursuing in life, both in the practical and idealistic senses.
The need to deal with those challenges is very real indeed. From a global perspective, there are definitely serious downsides to our current failure to so much as be reasonably aware of each other's goals and values. There is only so much respect that can be given when we fail so badly at mutual understanding.
However, there seems to be no functional shortcut. Troubling as the realizations may be that, for instance, some people don't much care for establishing a traditional family, or would rather live a very emotional life than a safe and long one, ultimately we have to deal with them, we have to accommodate for that variety. It is just not possible to truly convince everyone that they should hold values that are nicely compatible with our own, and the attractives of predictability are not nearly enough justification to try and pressure people into claiming beliefs and values that they do not hold. For one thing, that would be demanding people to lie and even to feel guilty for no good reason beyond sparing our own feelings.
So it seems to me that for good or worse, this diversity is here to stay and we all better learn to accept it as graciously as we can. If nothing else, that will encourage people to be true to themselves and to avoid unnecessary conflicts.
On the other hand, we should also be soberly realistic about the true reach of our decisions and beliefs. People are simply way too connected. One may decide not to have children, but only rarely without deciding to deny others grandsons, granddaughters, nieces and nephews in so doing. Other people pay the price for our choices even when they are necessary and virtuous. And we humans have deep social needs: we need to find ways of trusting each other or at least avoiding those that we do not trust. Mutual understanding is very much a necessity, and the anxiety from failing to establish it is all too real and justified.
It is possible that my opinion that those challenges are a major subject matter for religion to deal with puts me at odds with other, perhaps in some senses more mainstream, understandings. There are certainly those who think of religion as the practice of learning what God wants and acting accordingly, instead. I can only try to understand how difficult it must be for them to deal with the variety of religious stances. It is no wonder that they so often end up avoiding, disrespecting or attempting to reinterpret other faiths; respect is not an easy thing to offer. It may well be a right, but it involves accepting to put oneself in a vulnerable position for the sake of others.
It seems to me that ultimately we all need to make allowances to a degree of unpredictability from others, be as genuinely interested in understanding others as we can confortably be, and hope for the best. I don't think there is much of a point in attempting to find out "which belief is true". Our religious duty does not involve finding out what is the true doctrine nearly as much as making our own valid, useful and true.
I guess I am not a believer in "ready-made" religions.
Thoughts?