This is going to maybe look like a hit and run, and if it does I apologize. I just can't come back with regularity.
I will do my best to get back if there are responses.
Let me begin by saying, I am an overthinker which means I almost obsessively check and double check everything and I mean everything. It isn't necessarily a lack of self confidence, it's simply my wiring, so I re evealuate things all the time. After I post this I will undoubtedly wonder if I over did it or said what I needed to say in a way that it was understood, even if disagreed with or seen as logically in need.
So I had an 'experience' when I was pretty young, fell away and got into some bad things. The whole time I was into those bad things I knew deep down it wasn't me and I knew I was supposed to be something different/better.
How did I know that? I had my background which was religious and which I analyzed over and over again. To be frank, I still have questions about some of it, but for some reason this did not dissuade me because I had faith in the core and what you might call 'it' and what I would call God rewarded that intention and I seen it was a contiguous thing, meaning I was never 'severed' from my faith completely. That thing I call God reached out to me and assured me I was still in the game and I needed to improve by pulling away from the bad stuff. I also OBSERVED those in my life who had fully committed and seen something real.
If you want the mechanicals of that, I can only say I trusted God ( Jesus) and He reciprocated. The reciprocation was in direct response to my obedience, to my realization that if He made me, He could make me a better me. I didn't want my god I wanted THE God, and He had my number.
We hear a lot about deconstruction nowadays and now after people go to college they 'lose' their faith. The way I see this, you're either all in or not in. Dipping your toe in won't do it. Once you fully dedicate you are from then on 'in'. Full dedication and acceptance are a life ticket. Externally it can look like full on dedication when it isn't. Only you and God know if it wasn't. Time will tell.
Anyone following mom's apron strings into religion will fold every time. This is for you and nothing anyone else does or says will change what you decide.
Rationalization comes into play and we play this Russian roulette with the latest finds to disprove the views they taught us, but what if the race to deconstruction is really a bunch or well oiled well doctored lies? The truth is noone can tell us how they think in any logical rational workable way that something came from nothing. Tacking zeros onto numbers doesn't work. The universe is in in a state of decline.